feeling very depressed that when i die i wont see my children again- how do i deal?

[mamatobabybear]

I would love to believe in god and heaven or just any form of afterlife where I get to see my loved ones again but I just don't believe... My problem is that it really depresses me to the point where I'm upset regularly at the thought that I won't see my loved ones again.

Its really affecting me now I have a one year old child who I love more than I ever thought possible to love another person. It makes me genuinely depressed to think I will die and so will he and I will never "see" him again. How do I stop feeling so sad by this?

[Baalzebutt]

I would love to believe in god and heaven or just any form of afterlife where I get to see my loved ones again but I just don't believe... My problem is that it really depresses me to the point where I'm upset regularly at the thought that I won't see my loved ones again.

Its really affecting me now I have a one year old child who I love more than I ever thought possible to love another person. It makes me genuinely depressed to think I will die and so will he and I will never "see" him again. How do I stop feeling so sad by this?

By focusing on the time you have with him. Enjoy every moment. Live with him everyday like you will never see him again.

[mamatobabybear]

But that's the problem! The fact I will never see him again as u say .. that is what depresses me!!
The more I enjoy our time together the more I love him... I love him more each day.. so much it hurts to think we won't be together after thus life. I don't want to enjoy or love him anymore as its upsetting that I won't be with him after death.

I almost wish I hadn't had him then I woulnd have this feeling. I don't want another child as I will then feel this way about yet another person I love.

[phil77]

But that's the problem! The fact I will never see him again as u say .. that is what depresses me!!
The more I enjoy our time together the more I love him... I love him more each day.. so much it hurts to think we won't be together after thus life. I don't want to enjoy or love him anymore as its upsetting that I won't be with him after death.

I almost wish I hadn't had him then I woulnd have this feeling. I don't want another child as I will then feel this way about yet another person I love.

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You need to make sure you stay fit and healthy to look after your children and look forward to your grandchildren. I promise you, that as you get older and your children get into adulthood you will feel a lot differently. You will live on in your children. I must be honest and say that I have a religious belief but I have known many non believers who have coped with this sort of question very well.

[Whateverist]

Walk it off? Try to focus more on the here and now?

[thesummerqueen]

Secular therapy?

[Waratah]

I would love to believe in god and heaven or just any form of afterlife where I get to see my loved ones again but I just don't believe... My problem is that it really depresses me to the point where I'm upset regularly at the thought that I won't see my loved ones again.

Its really affecting me now I have a one year old child who I love more than I ever thought possible to love another person. It makes me genuinely depressed to think I will die and so will he and I will never "see" him again. How do I stop feeling so sad by this?

Seek professional help.

Do not worry about the future if all you do is get stressed about it

[phil77]

As I said before, I am a believer but I won't attempt for you to become religious. You may well have a bit of post natal depression. You need to talk to your GP or health visitor on Monday or if things are too bad to cope over the weekend then phone out of hours GP or NHS direct. My sister was very tearful and low for over a year after giving birth.

[Whateverist]

it hurts to think we won't be together after thus life. I don't want to enjoy or love him anymore as its upsetting that I won't be with him after death.

I almost wish I hadn't had him then I woulnd have this feeling. I don't want another child as I will then feel this way about yet another person I love.

I must be becoming cynical but this does not strike me as a normal reaction for an atheist. Who else thinks about 'after this life' but theists?

Is it just me or are we getting more and more theists trying to make points by masquerading as one of us? (Apologies if I'm way off base here. Maybe I'm paranoid.)

[phil77]

it hurts to think we won't be together after thus life. I don't want to enjoy or love him anymore as its upsetting that I won't be with him after death.

I almost wish I hadn't had him then I woulnd have this feeling. I don't want another child as I will then feel this way about yet another person I love.

I must be becoming cynical but this does not strike me as a normal reaction for an atheist. Who else thinks about 'after this life' but theists?

Is it just me or are we getting more and more theists trying to make points by masquerading as one of us? (Apologies if I'm way off base here. Maybe I'm paranoid.)

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I must be becoming cynical but this does not strike me as a normal reaction for an atheist. Who else thinks about 'after this life' but theists?

Is it just me or are we getting more and more theists trying to make points by masquerading as one of us? (Apologies if I'm way off base here. Maybe I'm paranoid.)