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feeling very depressed that when i die i wont see my children again- how do i deal?
#31
RE: feeling very depressed that when i die i wont see my children again- how do i deal?
What is it with your inability to spell short words?
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#32
RE: feeling very depressed that when i die i wont see my children again- how do i deal?
(June 1, 2013 at 5:22 am)mamatobabybear Wrote: Wow ur nasty. Seriously re read the title of my post!! It asks how do I deal with the fact I won't see my family again!

As for saying most atheists just say they don't believein god and I find that hard to say then yes! I clearly said I believe when I die I will be nothing as I was before I was born.. how much clearer to I need to be. Just because I believe that doesn't mean I like it. I wish there was life after death and a god so yes its hard to accept there isn't! Who said you have to be happy about being an atheist. I'm not bullshitting... Thanks for ur support. What a welcoming forum.. nit! (Well actually some people have been very lovely but thanks to u I think I will leave

I am not a trained therapist. To be honest I avoid being analysed and helped with my mental issues like if it were a disease. Throughout my life I confronted my problems with the simple phrases "Get Use to it", "Pull yourself together", "Keep going on".
And I bet most other people here are also not trained and therefor not in the possition to give you any professional help.

Your anxiety for your family does sound painfull, but I cannot help you, and I am sure that no one else here can.

I can only give you the advice to seek out professionals such as a therapist or a psychologist.

Would you need help with that?
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#33
RE: feeling very depressed that when i die i wont see my children again- how do i deal?
I had similar obsessions about death and dying (though not the fixation about an afterlife) post-kids, I'd just couldn't shake them. I was later diagnosed with post-partum depression.
I'd highly recommend you speak to a doctor, any will do your OB/GYN, your family doc, even your kid's ped (they've all seen PPD and should be able to point you in an appropriate direction). They'll be in a better position to tell if you're depressed than people on the Internet.
As for the afterlife... I believe we just die, nothing more. But we do live on (in a way) in the hearts and minds of those we love. Just love and demonstrate your love as much and as often as you are able. Your children will know they are loved by you, even after you die. They will carry that with them and hopefully pass it on to their own children. That's a happy thought. But if you find your ability to function is being impared by obsessive thoughts of never seeing your family and loved ones again, you really should seek some help.
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#34
RE: feeling very depressed that when i die i wont see my children again- how do i deal?
(June 1, 2013 at 5:22 am)mamatobabybear Wrote: (Well actually some people have been very lovely but thanks to u I think I will leave

Don't take their skepticism personally. It is a common tactic for non-atheists to come here pretending to be an atheist and present an existential or moral problem that they believe can only lead to absurdity when approached from the atheist perspective.

I think getting checked out for postpartum depression is a good idea. Depression can make people obsess over things they otherwise would not have a problem with.

I think an important question to ask yourself, however, is not so much about how do to deal with not having an afterlife life, but what is it about this life that you find so insufficient that you desire another one?
Even if the open windows of science at first make us shiver after the cozy indoor warmth of traditional humanizing myths, in the end the fresh air brings vigor, and the great spaces have a splendor of their own - Bertrand Russell
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#35
RE: feeling very depressed that when i die i wont see my children again- how do i deal?
(June 1, 2013 at 5:22 am)mamatobabybear Wrote: Wow ur nasty. Seriously re read the title of my post!! It asks how do I deal with the fact I won't see my family again!

As for saying most atheists just say they don't believein god and I find that hard to say then yes! I clearly said I believe when I die I will be nothing as I was before I was born.. how much clearer to I need to be. Just because I believe that doesn't mean I like it. I wish there was life after death and a god so yes its hard to accept there isn't! Who said you have to be happy about being an atheist. I'm not bullshitting... Thanks for ur support. What a welcoming forum.. nit! (Well actually some people have been very lovely but thanks to u I think I will leave
Yes deal not feel.
In your posts you sounded desperate at first:

"I don't want to enjoy or love him anymore as its upsetting that I won't be with him after death."

"I almost wish I hadn't had him then I woulnd have this feeling. I don't want another child as I will then feel this way about yet another person I love."

These above statements if true concern me and as I stated before SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP.

In your 3rd post you were more concerned about the question of your atheism than your actual situation.  Thinking

That last sentence just adding 0.9%, now it's 99.9%. If you really want to prove me wrong go to the introductions and start a thread. We are not allowed to be "nasty" there.
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#36
RE: feeling very depressed that when i die i wont see my children again- how do i deal?
First of all, welcome to the forum.

Second, I find your position a bit strange... As such, I'd advise you seek professional help (not an online forum, where half the residents can and will troll you).

Third, how can you say you won't see them after you're dead? If there's no life after death, how would you see them after you're dead?
When you die, you die. Your brain stops, shuts down. Your eyes stop perceiving the world and your brain stops interpreting the fading ocular inputs.
After that, it's game over.
You won't even be there to notice that you're not seeing them.

So, please, do your best to enjoy the time you do have to see them.
Do not worry about non-sense.
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#37
RE: feeling very depressed that when i die i wont see my children again- how do i deal?
1. Inability to spell short words is due to typing on my phone... Auto correct without me realising as I type.

2. When I Said I don't want to love him anymore I meant any more (I didn't mean I want to stop loving him. I meant I don't want to love him any more than I already do as like I've said I find it sad we won't be together after this life as I love him so much

3. Yes the extremely strong feelings I have could be due to mild depression and thanks for those who have shown support. But I would like to point out I did feel this to a much minor extent years ago when I first realised I didn't believe in god, heaven, afterlife etc. I also don't think its that strange a view. I had a covo with my mother months back with her telling me she is spiritual and hopes for some sort of after life as she finds that comforting. She told me she would find it sad if she didn't believe in some sort of after life as she wants to be with her family etc again. She's not depressed that's just her view. I think its common feeling to want to believe as its comforting . I know I would find it comforting but I just can't believe unfortunately for me. Anyway one I shouldn't feed the trolls so that's all from me and thanks so much again to those if u who have been helpful.
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#38
RE: feeling very depressed that when i die i wont see my children again- how do i deal?
If you've had depression in the past, you are more likely to have postpartum depression. It sucks and a common symptom is to feel limited in your capacity to love and nurture your child. Get it checked out.
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#39
RE: feeling very depressed that when i die i wont see my children again- how do i deal?
Watarah, this isn't exactly a rare thing for new atheists, or atheists in depression, to struggle with.

mama, if you are being legit and haven't yet, I would really start an intro thread.
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#40
RE: feeling very depressed that when i die i wont see my children again- how do i deal?
The only solution to your depression is to believe in afterlife. it doesn't have to be any specific belief such as religion, but believe in afterlife and your depression will give up.
Think with simplicity, and you will solve the most complex questions in the universe.

Thinking
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