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RE: Do you care about your significant other's sexual past?
April 19, 2015 at 11:59 pm
"John" (NHRN) broke up with me because so many of my friends were HIV+, and he did not want AIDS in his life even to that extent.
This was in '87, and it looked like I was in for a very long haul of losing friends and acquaintances and as it turned out, I was.
I can't really blame 'John' for that. When we both tested -, he thought his world would be unaffected by AIDS from then on, after my friend Dave died, and it was apparent there were going to be many more, John wanted no part of my world.
I even almost envied him, being able to have that level of control over AIDS in his life was something I would never experience.
So, for "John", it wasn't my sexual history, it devolved to the sexual history of my friends. I think there was some moralizing going on his head once he knew his - status, and those who were + were 'tainted' in his mind.
Did I mention, "John" was a licensed healthcare professional ?
I haven't stayed in touch with him, other than an annual google to see if he is still alive and whether he has moved.
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RE: Do you care about your significant other's sexual past?
April 20, 2015 at 12:07 am
I don't care either. I even said my husband had quite a past. I appreciate him exactly as he is (mostly)...you know, lol.
But seriously, I would not want to date a habitual cheater. And disease would alsoo be something of an issue, something I'd like to at least know. But that's not quite the same thing anyway. Number of partners is irrelevant (or as someone pointed out, mostly people want a bit of experience in that area).
I didn't really see people mostly caring in that thread either. Maybe I misread some posts.
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RE: Do you care about your significant other's sexual past?
April 20, 2015 at 12:08 am
I don't ask unless it comes up in conversation, as well. What is important to me is their sexual health and that they are disease free and take safe sex/protection very seriously.
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RE: Do you care about your significant other's sexual past?
April 20, 2015 at 12:09 am
(April 19, 2015 at 11:59 pm)vorlon13 Wrote: "John" (NHRN) broke up with me because so many of my friends were HIV+, and he did not want AIDS in his life even to that extent.
This was in '87, and it looked like I was in for a very long haul of losing friends and acquaintances and as it turned out, I was.
I can't really blame 'John' for that. When we both tested -, he thought his world would be unaffected by AIDS from then on, after my friend Dave died, and it was apparent there were going to be many more, John wanted no part of my world.
I even almost envied him, being able to have that level of control over AIDS in his life was something I would never experience.
So, for "John", it wasn't my sexual history, it devolved to the sexual history of my friends. I think there was some moralizing going on his head once he knew his - status, and those who were + were 'tainted' in his mind.
Did I mention, "John" was a licensed healthcare professional ?
I haven't stayed in touch with him, other than an annual google to see if he is still alive and whether he has moved.
I've never experienced anything like this. I'm sorry you suffered so much loss. 
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RE: Do you care about your significant other's sexual past?
April 20, 2015 at 12:12 am
Do i care.. short answer no long answer nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
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RE: Do you care about your significant other's sexual past?
April 20, 2015 at 12:31 am
Only to the extent that I would like to know about it in the long run...
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RE: Do you care about your significant other's sexual past?
April 20, 2015 at 12:35 am
Not really, except, as others have pointed out: in the case of diseases. I also have an ex who was a total prude. It broke us up. He didn't like me watching Sex and the City, and our final fight was about how he didn't think Clerks was funny at all... just because he fixated on the 37 dicks scene. I said, "it's too bad that upsets you. I haven't had 37 dicks, but I've had more than yours!" He stormed out of the house. I vowed never to date another prude.
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RE: Do you care about your significant other's sexual past?
April 20, 2015 at 12:40 am
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Lol. I was reading
He didn't like me watching Sex
(line break, got excited)
in the City
*d'oh* what a fool. But was he really a prude or was it just a sexist double standard and you were supposed to be nice and innocent?
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RE: Do you care about your significant other's sexual past?
April 20, 2015 at 12:49 am
Oh no; he thought stripclubs were dens of indecency (and... yeah... so?) and he was always talking disparagingly about his friends' interest in porn. Total prude. Sex was pretty decent with him, though, as long as I didn't talk or make any noise.
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RE: Do you care about your significant other's sexual past?
April 20, 2015 at 12:55 am
(April 20, 2015 at 12:49 am)rexbeccarox Wrote: Sex was pretty decent with him, though, as long as I didn't talk or make any noise.
I only know you from the internet, but it seems like that one was doomed from the start ;D
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