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Age of Marriage?
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RE: Age of Marriage?
(May 22, 2016 at 5:03 pm)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote: I think atheists should marry and begin having children as early as possible - 16 seems about right.

I think theists should be very sober and reflective, and not commit to marriage or procreation until their mid 70s.

Boru

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RE: Age of Marriage?
(May 22, 2016 at 5:06 pm)Tres Leches Wrote:
(May 22, 2016 at 5:03 pm)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote: I think atheists should marry and begin having children as early as possible - 16 seems about right.

I think theists should be very sober and reflective, and not commit to marriage or procreation until their mid 70s.

Boru

I would give this a thousand kudos if I could  Smile

Aww. *goes all blushy*

Boru
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RE: Age of Marriage?
(May 22, 2016 at 3:34 pm)Janice_Spokes Wrote: This is sort of a "ladies only" thread. Gentleman, please post elsewhere. I suppose though if you do post.. just be polite/discrete okay? Like talk as if your gradnmother can read it.

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RE: Age of Marriage?
(May 22, 2016 at 5:10 pm)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote:
(May 22, 2016 at 5:06 pm)Tres Leches Wrote: I would give this a thousand kudos if I could  Smile

Aww.  *goes all blushy*

Boru

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(May 22, 2016 at 5:16 pm)Jenny A Wrote:
(May 22, 2016 at 3:34 pm)Janice_Spokes Wrote: This is sort of a "ladies only" thread. Gentleman, please post elsewhere. I suppose though if you do post.. just be polite/discrete okay? Like talk as if your gradnmother can read it.

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That was my first thought, too, Jenny.
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RE: Age of Marriage?
(May 22, 2016 at 3:34 pm)Janice_Spokes Wrote: This is sort of a "ladies only" thread. Gentleman, please post elsewhere. I suppose though if you do post.. just be polite/discrete okay? Like talk as if your gradnmother can read it.

Ladies, what age do you think is appropriate to marry? I know its really common to wait until your late 20s, early 30s to marry. When our grandmothers were alive, they tended to marry right out of high school at age 18.

They did school, became an adult and married. I did that myself. Im 35, married when I was 20 or so.

In my case, finding a good man by the time I was 20 made things less complicated. No heartbreaks, no bad relationships, or irresponsible decisions. I mean I became sort of an adult, or at least more of one after I became Mrs. Spokes.

I had to say goodbye to crazy drinking and partying. (Though I do drink and party on occassion Wink !)

Its sort of a crazy thing these days, how many of "us girls" choose to behave. It's like so many girls don't want to be married but act like the "wife" of tons of guys all through their 20s.

Our grannies would be shocked by it. So many girls who perform the marital act, but are old maids well into their 20s! Sorry if I offended anyone, I do not mean to.

What is the right "marriage age?" Are any girls here married?  Any looking for "Mr. Right?" And finally, are there those of us who gave up on finding a man, and have resigned yourselves to being a spinster or your nephew/niece's maiden aunt? Let's talk if that is the case, maybe I can give some advice!

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#16
RE: Age of Marriage?
I agree with the OP again....

A man and a woman should not have sex before marriage. It's just wrong!
That's why I play it say ad have gay sex only....just to practice... It's not immoral if you do it that way.
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RE: Age of Marriage?
Better to marry at 35, having lived, experienced various relationships and gained a solid sense of self, instead of rushing into it at 18 and (naturally) growing apart from your spouse by mid-life. I'm 22 and I'm already a completely different person to who I was 4 years ago, I can't fathom who I'll be in another 10 years.

And ok, it worked in your case and there's nothing wrong with that, good for you. It's still a fluke and not representative of reality for most 21st Century people.

I'm wondering in my mind whether people are supposed to be monogamous anyway. I'm not saying everyone should just be rambunctious, waving it around and cheating on someone who isn't comfortable with that. But then is it psychologically healthy spending 60 years with the same person, everyday their face being the first you see in the morning and the last you see at night? No space or time to yourself. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to find "the one" who I'd happily spend forever with, and it could happen sure. But I live in reality, not a romance novel, and I know it's more likely not to happen.
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Might you explain why you think men shouldn't opine here?

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#19
RE: Age of Marriage?
(May 22, 2016 at 3:34 pm)Janice_Spokes Wrote:


Legal Marriage™ is unethical. No government or religious institution has the right to tell me that my commitment to my S.O. isn't good enough until ratified by them! Like I'm some licentious Lothario who can't stop himself from sleeping with every woman he meets without some form of penalty-contract. They can keep their grubby little hands off my relationship! Plus, here in the UK, there are legal & financial 'incentives' (bribes!), just to taint the process that extra bit Angry

Sure, the ceremonies are wonderful and I'm all for the public celebration of relationships, if that's what the people involved want but there's something decidedly false and misogynistic about any society that indoctrinates its women in to 'desiring' marriage, unthinkingly. Don't even get me started on the capitalistic industrialisation of weddings!
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RE: Age of Marriage?
(May 22, 2016 at 3:34 pm)Janice_Spokes Wrote: This is sort of a "ladies only" thread. Gentleman, please post elsewhere. I suppose though if you do post.. just be polite/discrete okay? Like talk as if your gradnmother can read it.

Ladies, what age do you think is appropriate to marry? I know its really common to wait until your late 20s, early 30s to marry. When our grandmothers were alive, they tended to marry right out of high school at age 18.

They did school, became an adult and married. I did that myself. Im 35, married when I was 20 or so.

In my case, finding a good man by the time I was 20 made things less complicated. No heartbreaks, no bad relationships, or irresponsible decisions. I mean I became sort of an adult, or at least more of one after I became Mrs. Spokes.

I had to say goodbye to crazy drinking and partying. (Though I do drink and party on occassion Wink !)

Its sort of a crazy thing these days, how many of "us girls" choose to behave. It's like so many girls don't want to be married but act like the "wife" of tons of guys all through their 20s.

Our grannies would be shocked by it. So many girls who perform the marital act, but are old maids well into their 20s! Sorry if I offended anyone, I do not mean to.

What is the right "marriage age?" Are any girls here married?  Any looking for "Mr. Right?" And finally, are there those of us who gave up on finding a man, and have resigned yourselves to being a spinster or your nephew/niece's maiden aunt? Let's talk if that is the case, maybe I can give some advice!

Some questions for you:

Why do you think the best age to marry is a question to be discussed among women only?  Is it a male versus woman question,  because if you think so you are doing it wrong.  Last I checked about 50% of the partiparticipants were both willing and male.  Shy  Of  course given that gay marriage is legal now  the participants may soon be over 50% male.   

What criteria do you think is relevant to the question:  education, emotional maturity, financial stability, ability to produce children,  prevention of premarital sex,  likelihood of divorce,  fear of never marrying, tradition?  My guess is tradition and  reducing premarital sex are at the top of your list.  My top three are emotional maturity, financial stability, and low likelihood of divorce.  I'm all for premarital sex in a world with contraceptives. 

I'm 53 and have been married to the same man for 22 years, and am busy putting are girls through school.  I'm sure they too will have premarital sex and marry rather later than 20.  They have college a day perhaps grad school to consider.
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