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So, I complimented this girl today...
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 (August 30, 2017 at 6:58 pm)Mermaid Wrote:(August 30, 2017 at 6:42 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Not gonna like, "I like your makeup" seems quite strange coming from a guy lol. That's something girls usually say to each other. I'm sure she appreciated the sweet gesture nonetheless. Maybe next time you want to compliment a girl from class, introduce yourself first and say "I just wanted to let you know that I think you are very beautiful..." or something along those lines.God, no wonder guys are so confused about women! I just told him not to say this exact thing because it's creepy! Lol. I mean, I definitely wouldn't recommend starting off a conversation that way. But if he MUST give a compliment, I think something genuine and simple is the best way to go. Anything else would come off like he's trying too hard.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh  RE: So, I complimented this girl today...
August 30, 2017 at 7:33 pm
(This post was last modified: August 30, 2017 at 7:38 pm by Thumpalumpacus.)
Meh, I'd always said, "hey, wanna catch a cup of coffee on break?" It's low-commitment with an easy turndown, and it lets them know you're interested without you investing a lot of time or effort into getting that across. She says "no, I've got to do this"? "Cool, maybe another time" and let her initiate the next convo. If she doesn't, you've got your answer. I never cared for easy compliments as "ice-breakers", because they seem to me a little too stereotypical.
The benefit of just a simple request is if she says "yes", I've got time to work on the compliments and avoid the cliches. Favorite approaches once we're sitting down: "How'd you do on the exam?" "You seem like you've got a decent grasp on this class. I'm having trouble with _____. Any ideas?" Get an open-ended conversation going and work from there, is my approach. And if she says "no", move on. But you're right, it's good to have the confidence to break the ice, it's more a matter of going about it the right way. 
I think I heard somewhere saying " I like your shirt " is a nice polite compliment. It's one that I just might manage to say, if I could get to that point.
 (August 30, 2017 at 7:33 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:(August 30, 2017 at 6:58 pm)Mermaid Wrote: God, no wonder guys are so confused about women! I just told him not to say this exact thing because it's creepy! How about "hot" instead of "beautiful" followed by looking her over like Christmas dinner? 
"Wanna fuck?" usually worked with me. I suppose women might appreciate a more nuanced and tempered approach.
Still, in the interests of efficiency and saving time . . . . . . The granting of a pardon is an imputation of guilt, and the acceptance a confession of it.
(August 30, 2017 at 7:35 pm)Industrial Lad Wrote: I think I heard somewhere saying " I like your shirt " is a nice polite compliment. It's one that I just might manage to say, if I could get to that point. I wouldn't. Again, sounds like compliments girls give each other, or it sounds gay. If you have to compliment, just tell her she's pretty.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh 
I usually don't say anything, I just lick my eyebrow and walk away.
I can't say how she took that compliment because I don't pretend to ever know what women are thinking, but when I read "I like your makeup", I cringed.
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