So, I complimented this girl today...

[Fidel_Castronaut]

At least you didn't get pepper sprayed.

Things are looking up young man.

[Whateverist]

I mean, that's how the initial attraction happens a lot of times though. You see someone you feel a physical attraction to, and motivated by that, you then try to get to know them to see if the attraction extends beyond the physical. I'm not saying it can't or doesn't ever happen the other way around. But I don't personally see anything wrong with it being a physical attraction first....

Yeah. I know that.

Doesn't that mean that it doesn't skeeze some folks when they're blatantly objectified though.
Makes some folks uncomfortable.

I hear you.  Just because I bring it doesn't mean I want to be called the salami man.  Please ladies, take it easy.

[Catholic_Lady]

I mean, that's how the initial attraction happens a lot of times though. You see someone you feel a physical attraction to, and motivated by that, you then try to get to know them to see if the attraction extends beyond the physical. I'm not saying it can't or doesn't ever happen the other way around. But I don't personally see anything wrong with it being a physical attraction first....

Yeah. I know that.

Doesn't that mean that it doesn't skeeze some folks when they're blatantly objectified though.
Makes some folks uncomfortable.

I guess we disagree on this. I don't think that thinking someone is beautiful and being attracted to them physically is objectifying the person. It would become objectifying, in my opinion, if you then proceeded to gawk at them to get all lusty and start fantasizing about having sex with their body (considering you don't even know them). Because then you're seeing them as merely an object for your own gratification and not a person that has more to them than that. But simply thinking someone is beautiful and having physical attraction? I don't think that's objectifying, but I guess it's to each their own if it makes them feel uncomfortable or not. Personally I take it as a compliment lol.

[Alex K]

No, not exactly creepy I presume. You just used the oldest, most clichéd line ever on her, so she probably mentally rolled her eyes at you for even trying that old canard.

Meh.  I don't think most girls care about that.  I ask new students why they came to our school with their sister, when it's obviously their mom, and the moms always tee hee and maybe blush a little.  I think that someone WANTS to compliment you is sufficient for most people to take it in a good light..

There's a difference. That one is just a more or less cutesy wink wink nudge nudge way of telling the mum that she looks young. The other one is obviously made up.

[Athene]

Yeah. I know that.

Doesn't that mean that it doesn't skeeze some folks when they're blatantly objectified though.
Makes some folks uncomfortable.

I guess we disagree on this. I don't think that thinking someone is beautiful and being attracted to them physically is objectifying the person. It would become objectifying, in my opinion, if you then proceeded to gawk at them to get all lusty and start fantasizing about having sex with their body (considering you don't even know them). Because then you're seeing them as merely an object for your own gratification and not a person that has more to them than that. But simply thinking someone is beautiful and having physical attraction? I don't think that's objectifying, but I guess it's to each their own if it makes them feel uncomfortable or not. Personally I take it as a compliment lol.

What matters as far as the OP is concerned is how hitting on someone in absence of any other information besides personal appearance does in fact, stand to make some women feel as though they are being objectified. And how that may impact their responses to him.

Whether you or I feel it's actually objectification or not, is of no consequence in this matter.

[The Valkyrie]

At least you didn't get pepper sprayed.

Things are looking up young man.

I always pepper spray/tase/kick in the nads a guy when I first meet him.

I find it saves time as I'd probably end up doing something like that to him at SOME point.

[brewer]

Once you get to know her better ask her what she sees in this Rorschach. 

[Aegon]

Gotta compliment the smile

[Catholic_Lady]

Gotta compliment the smile

I hope you are joking. You have a nice smile sounds cheesy AF lol.

[Mr.wizard]

Gotta compliment the smile

I hope you are joking. You have a nice smile sounds cheesy AF lol.

Maybe but it's probably better than "I like your makeup".