Very Off Topic, but is being a virgin a turnoff for the ladies?

[vorlon13]

selfish . . .

Yeah, basically. I wanted to be the one and only.

you're a mean old poop !!

[paulpablo]

For a religious woman I imagine it's a turn on.  But then they'd probably get turned off if you told them that you just realized late on in life that religion is bullshit.

In general, fear and lack of confidence turns women off.

General tendencies and statistics don't mean much for individual real life scenarios though.

The first time I lost my virginity was to a fairly attractive girl who knew I was a virgin, the first time we tried I was too high on drugs and couldn't get it up, she had to pay for the hotel room the time we actually did have sex. And I was even drunk then.

If I was to ask "Is it a turn off for attractive girls when you're a virgin and you took too many drugs and can't get it up and you ask them to pay for the hotel because you have no money because you're an idiotic, drunk student with no job?"  Then the answer would be yes it's a turn off, but by some kind of miracle I lost my virginity.

[brewer]

Depends on the lady. Some enjoy the deflowering. I'm very glad that I ran into one.

[NuclearEnergy]

Its not a turn off. But if you haven't masterbated or watched a fair amount of porn, you might wanna brush up on your knowledge. Being a virgin is great. Being a bumbling, sexually repressed, inexperienced person who can't bring skills to the table (or floor, or bed, or wherever) is quite another.

My first time was a huge disappointment. Neither one of us knew what we were doing and it was so awkward. It was absolutely terrible. He got his rocks off but finished before letting me get mine off. Totally inadequate and not fair at a

Rest assured Porn is part of my daily routine. lol I'm not so sure if that is something to be proud of though.

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I am noticing a very common theme with these replies. And that is confidence. I should mention it's not like I tell everyone I have met. However, for some reason I just feel someone would know. I may just be paranoid though. But this confidence thing seems to be key.

[Whateverist]

selfish . . .

Yeah, basically. I wanted to be the one and only.

But then they'd have no frame of reference for how good you were .. unless .. never mind.

[Aroura]

Tip #1. Don't call it "getting laid".

But no, personally I wouldn't have cared one whit in my younger days. Might even have made things more interesting. I suppose like anything, it will vary from person to person.

[Seraphina]

The first time I had sex, I didn't announce that I was a virgin. Why would you? It probably doesn't matter as much as you think it does.

-Teresa

[NuclearEnergy]

The first time I had sex, I didn't announce that I was a virgin. Why would you? It probably doesn't matter as much as you think it does.

-Teresa

That makes quite a bit of sense to me. I'm over thinking this.

[AFTT47]

Fuck. I used to think of myself as a nerd but thanks to the internet, I now realize I'm Mack Daddy.

No sex by age 24? Holy shit.

Maybe you should should hire a prostitute. Definitely not romantic and definitely no emotional gratification but at least you get to break the ice. She won't care that you're a virgin and may give you some pointers (no pun intended).

Life's more than about getting laid but you really need to get over the hump here (no pun intended). Failure to do so is just going to gnaw at you and prevent you from moving on to bigger and better things. GET LAID! Pony up the cash if that's what it takes but do it if for no other reason than to move on.

As Yoda said, "Luminous beings are we. Not this crude matter." Maybe he was right but our brains aren't wired that way. You need to get laid if only to get it out of your system and move on to bigger and better things. You'll be a dysfunctional basket case until you do.

[No_God]

Fuck. I used to think of myself as a nerd but thanks to the internet, I now realize I'm Mack Daddy.

No sex by age 24? Holy shit.

Maybe you should should hire a prostitute. Definitely not romantic and definitely no emotional gratification but at least you get to break the ice. She won't care that you're a virgin and may give you some pointers (no pun intended).

Life's more than about getting laid but you really need to get over the hump here (no pun intended). Failure to do so is just going to gnaw at you and prevent you from moving on to bigger and better things. GET LAID! Pony up the cash if that's what it takes but do it if for no other reason than to move on.

As Yoda said, "Luminous beings are we. Not this crude matter." Maybe he was right but our brains aren't wired that way. You need to get laid if only to get it out of your system and move on to bigger and better things. You'll be a dysfunctional basket case until you do.

I was considering hiring a prostitute for a family member who was a virgin until 28.