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Very Off Topic, but is being a virgin a turnoff for the ladies?
November 11, 2017 at 11:28 am
So I am currently a 24 year old college senior. And I still have yet to get laid. It is partially my fault though seeing as I am very shy and honestly don't have many friends. My religious upbringing was somewhat sexually repressive as well, but I will leave it at that. (I'm an agnostic now though). There is a girl I know back home that I like, but I don't think it will happen. I really want to find someone like a girlfriend for instance. However, I worry if that when I do they will be turned off to find that I haven't had sex with. Hell, I have never kissed a girl before. 
I know, this is kind of a weird, and petty question. But I trust you guys.
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RE: Very Off Topic, but is being a virgin a turnoff for the ladies?
November 11, 2017 at 11:35 am
Just don't tell them.
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RE: Very Off Topic, but is being a virgin a turnoff for the ladies?
November 11, 2017 at 11:36 am
(November 11, 2017 at 11:35 am)No_God Wrote: Just don't tell them.
lmao 
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RE: Very Off Topic, but is being a virgin a turnoff for the ladies?
November 11, 2017 at 11:59 am
After my first time I admitted it, and got laughed at. I took it as a compliment.
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RE: Very Off Topic, but is being a virgin a turnoff for the ladies?
November 11, 2017 at 12:09 pm
(This post was last modified: November 11, 2017 at 12:09 pm by Whateverist.)
Are you comfortable with sex with just yourself? Do you feel guilty about it at all? Do you experiment to make it as good as you can? Learning what pleases you is good practice for learning what will please her - not that those will be the same, the learning mind set is what matters. If you approach sex with her with curiosity and a happy expectation for discovery, it'll be fun. Don't worry about seeming worldly or expert enough, in fact don't think about how you appear to her at all. Focus on her, make her comfortable. Create some verbal intimacy before you get to the sex part. Be transparent. With relationships, it will often not work out for one or the other of you for reasons that will become clear as you spend more time together. Let that be a no-fault thing, it is as unpleasant realizing and having to tell her that she won't work out for you as it would be for her to have to tell you that. Be kind.
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RE: Very Off Topic, but is being a virgin a turnoff for the ladies?
November 11, 2017 at 12:28 pm
No. For me, NOT being a virgin was a turn off.
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RE: Very Off Topic, but is being a virgin a turnoff for the ladies?
November 11, 2017 at 12:31 pm
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selfish . . .
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RE: Very Off Topic, but is being a virgin a turnoff for the ladies?
November 11, 2017 at 12:34 pm
I can also assure for folks thinking a walk on Gay St might be fun, virginity is definitely not a turn off.
In fact, being a virgin, and also being steeped to the gills in foaming, virulent religious inspired guilt is QUITE a turn on.
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RE: Very Off Topic, but is being a virgin a turnoff for the ladies?
November 11, 2017 at 12:39 pm
(November 11, 2017 at 12:31 pm)vorlon13 Wrote: selfish . . .
Yeah, basically. I wanted to be the one and only.
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RE: Very Off Topic, but is being a virgin a turnoff for the ladies?
November 11, 2017 at 12:48 pm
Its not a turn off. But if you haven't masterbated or watched a fair amount of porn, you might wanna brush up on your knowledge. Being a virgin is great. Being a bumbling, sexually repressed, inexperienced person who can't bring skills to the table (or floor, or bed, or wherever) is quite another.
My first time was a huge disappointment. Neither one of us knew what we were doing and it was so awkward. It was absolutely terrible. He got his rocks off but finished before letting me get mine off. Totally inadequate and not fair at all.
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