What are the major qualities you like in a person and in what order?

[Edwardo Piet]

Women generally have a natural tendency to be a bit "naggy". Not in a malicious sort of way, but in a nurturing "I want to be sure you are taken care of" sort of way. This comes across to men as talking down sometimes. When really it's just our nurturing female hormones doing their thing.

Yeah I really like that aspect.

It's only when someone acts like I'm stupid, whether they're male or female, that I take offense.

I definitely don't like that aspect from my own mom though lol. The nagging. I'm a big boy now.

But if I were to live with a hot woman who I was in a relationship with... I'd want to be nagged lol. But not condescended.

I need to be nagged because I forget shit and I have no common sense. If I get called stupid due to my lack of common sense and poor memory, or I get talked to as if I'm a child, that would piss me off. That isn't attractive.

It's all a matter of degree I guess.

[Anomalocaris]

A pulse.  That pretty much comes first.  Everything else is optional.

Some heart assist devices eliminates the pulse.

[Edwardo Piet]

In what setting?  

If I'm playing basketball with them, I'd say someone who passes the ball, and gets back on defense.  I wouldn't care if they beat their spouse.
If I'm marrying them, not beating their spouse would be much higher on the list than transition defense.

No setting really just an extremely general way. Like, I guess you could separate it to people in general you meet offline and people in general you meet online.

For me it's the same everywhere with exception to things like games and stuff lol. Unless we're in some sort of strict setting where everything becomes super impersonal and is all about following specific rules.... as long as we're being informal enough to actually talk to each other, even if it's supposed to be formal it often becomes informal, then the qualities I listed make sense.

And some of them even make sense in formal settings. Even if someone is not a friend to me I'd still prefer they were intelligent and honest and not a douche, for instance.

But yeah of course there are exceptions like basketball and stuff lol. Then I just want the person to be a good team player and play well but not cheat or foul lol.

[ignoramus]

Being an easy going and tolerant person, I'll just tell you what I don't like in a person.

unnecessary drama
I am, I am, look at me, look at me!
superficial to the core
being rude and rude to others
smelly armpits

I don't judge on looks or intelligence. Many of those factors are beyond people's control and has no bearing on whether they are good or bad people.

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

1. General competence. 

2. Lack of whinging.

3. Fairness. 

Boru

Screw you, I'll whine if I want to. 

I find myself unsurprised. 

Boru

[paulpablo]

A major thing to me is to watch out to avoid certain negatives that other people have mentioned. Like violence, being angry, intimidating or attempting to intimidate. It's kind if like building a house, you can have material with all sorts of good qualities but if the foundations are built on dangerous ground it doesn't matter.

Beyond that, the major qualities I like in order are....

Being a good conversationalist. Not necesserily being the funniest person ever but just having something to say, being able to sense if the other person is bored, knowing when to shut up. Being funny. The quality of being sexually attractive in a female. Kindness.

Its not really possible to rank them neatly. Because if I had to choose between being friendly with a moderately attractive female with just quite a good personality I'd probably rather talk to her than an a man who's the funniest guy ever with good conversation skills. But if the girl was boring I'd rather talk to the guy. In general though these are stuff I look for.

[energizer bunny]

I the older i get the more i look for maturity in a person. It appears more rare. But i guess its hard growing up when even our parents, teachers, and world leaders are mainly just childish adults.

[Edwardo Piet]

I don't judge on looks or intelligence. Many of those factors are beyond people's control and has no bearing on whether they are good or bad people.

I agree it doesn't make them a better person when someone is intelligent and good looking. But it does make me like them more

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I the older i get the more i look for maturity in a person. It appears more rare. 

It's not rare to be mature it's simply donkey poop and cabbage in the mouth, neener neener, neener neener, if you were a dinosaur you would be dildocasaurus. Bite me you turkey!

[ignoramus]

Yep ...that's how evolution works... the ugly cane toads don't find a mate but the pretty ones do and the species thrives...
Have you ever noticed how all the remaining cane toads are all beautiful now...


This is Amanda ... she's single, loves 80's electronic music and watermelon barcardi breezers

[*Deidre*]

In order:

Humility
Kindness
Good listener
Funny, good sense of humor
Adventurous

Without humility, the rest doesn’t matter.