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Bar etiquette
#11
RE: Bar etiquette
IKR, if I see some guy sitting alone at a bar drinking red wine and surfing grindr..I'm totally gonna introduce him to somebody.  

Don't throw the net if you don't want to catch fish Alex.  There's some bar etiquette forya.  Wink
I am the Infantry. I am my country’s strength in war, her deterrent in peace. I am the heart of the fight… wherever, whenever. I carry America’s faith and honor against her enemies. I am the Queen of Battle. I am what my country expects me to be, the best trained Soldier in the world. In the race for victory, I am swift, determined, and courageous, armed with a fierce will to win. Never will I fail my country’s trust. Always I fight on…through the foe, to the objective, to triumph overall. If necessary, I will fight to my death. By my steadfast courage, I have won more than 200 years of freedom. I yield not to weakness, to hunger, to cowardice, to fatigue, to superior odds, For I am mentally tough, physically strong, and morally straight. I forsake not, my country, my mission, my comrades, my sacred duty. I am relentless. I am always there, now and forever. I AM THE INFANTRY! FOLLOW ME!
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#12
RE: Bar etiquette
(August 14, 2018 at 4:08 am)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote: I don't see where you did anything wrong.  You went to a bar and another patron tried to engage you in conversation.  This sociological phenomenon is known among academics as 'How People Behave In Bars'.

Boru

Here is how it has gone for me at bars in my life.

See an attractive lady, slide up and sit on the bar stool next to her, turn my head, start to open my mouth and raise my hand to offer her a drink, and before I can say a thing "SLAP!"

(August 14, 2018 at 6:58 am)The Valkyrie Wrote:
(August 13, 2018 at 10:25 pm)Alexmahone Wrote: I'm a straight guy. 

I went to the bar today and the bartender wasn't at her station. Another male customer who was seated with a drink looked at me, so I said hi. He said the bartender had just gone out. She (the bartender) returned a little later and I then ordered my usual glass of red wine. The man then asked me if I was from India, so I said yes. He said he was from Punjab (which is also in India). I then went to a corner and had my drink while browsing the internet. After I finished my drink, I went to the till and paid the bill, whereupon the man asked me if I was studying here (Canada). I said yes, I was studying math at the university. He asked me if I wanted to be a teacher, I said I hadn't decided. He asked me if my parents would come to Canada. I said no, they were fine in India. I went back to my corner and continued browsing the internet for a couple of minutes upon which the man started saying something to me. I couldn't hear him, so I went up to him and then he asked me if I wanted more wine. I said I was fine, went to my seat, packed up and left with a weird feeling.

Question: What did I do wrong? Did I break some unspoken rule of bar etiquette?

The only problem I can see is that you left witnesses.

Must try harder.

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#13
RE: Bar etiquette
(August 14, 2018 at 7:03 am)Khemikal Wrote: What's the question supposed to be about?  Wrong in relation to what?  What does your sexual orientation have to do with it?  I'm trying to work out what you're baiting around with this time.  Are we supposed to connect the dots and wonder why some guy was hitting on you?  Maybe you throw off a vibe.  Probably the red wine.

Or maybe, being from india.but being in canadia..he was just looking for a friendly face in a sea of strangers?

If the underlying question is "why do gay guys hit on me, ick ick ick!", you could have simply asked..and the answer is easy. You're either cute, or you seem gay.

Exactly what you said: I assumed he was trying to hit on me.
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#14
RE: Bar etiquette
(August 14, 2018 at 3:16 pm)Alexmahone Wrote:
(August 14, 2018 at 7:03 am)Khemikal Wrote: What's the question supposed to be about?  Wrong in relation to what?  What does your sexual orientation have to do with it?  I'm trying to work out what you're baiting around with this time.  Are we supposed to connect the dots and wonder why some guy was hitting on you?  Maybe you throw off a vibe.  Probably the red wine.

Or maybe, being from india.but being in canadia..he was just looking for a friendly face in a sea of strangers?

If the underlying question is "why do gay guys hit on me, ick ick ick!", you could have simply asked..and the answer is easy.  You're either cute, or you seem gay.

Exactly what you said: I assumed he was trying to hit on me.

He might have been but you also just said you are both from another country he could just be drawn to you for that reason. I know if I was in a foreign country I would want to at least have a conversation with any other fellow countrymen I saw there. Being in a country that is so vastly different like Canada and India are it's a big deal to see something familiar to some people. Even if you don't feel it doesn't automatically mean someone wants in your pants.
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#15
RE: Bar etiquette
(August 14, 2018 at 3:16 pm)Alexmahone Wrote:
(August 14, 2018 at 7:03 am)Khemikal Wrote: What's the question supposed to be about?  Wrong in relation to what?  What does your sexual orientation have to do with it?  I'm trying to work out what you're baiting around with this time.  Are we supposed to connect the dots and wonder why some guy was hitting on you?  Maybe you throw off a vibe.  Probably the red wine.

Or maybe, being from india.but being in canadia..he was just looking for a friendly face in a sea of strangers?

If the underlying question is "why do gay guys hit on me, ick ick ick!", you could have simply asked..and the answer is easy. You're either cute, or you seem gay.

Exactly what you said: I assumed he was trying to hit on me.

*shrug*

There are a finite number of people who will ever hit on you. Feel properly flattered, take it in stride, and carry on. It sounds like a harmless encounter, and you don’t have anything over which to second guess yourself.
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#16
RE: Bar etiquette
(August 14, 2018 at 3:16 pm)Alexmahone Wrote:
(August 14, 2018 at 7:03 am)Khemikal Wrote: What's the question supposed to be about?  Wrong in relation to what?  What does your sexual orientation have to do with it?  I'm trying to work out what you're baiting around with this time.  Are we supposed to connect the dots and wonder why some guy was hitting on you?  Maybe you throw off a vibe.  Probably the red wine.

Or maybe, being from india.but being in canadia..he was just looking for a friendly face in a sea of strangers?

If the underlying question is "why do gay guys hit on me, ick ick ick!", you could have simply asked..and the answer is easy.  You're either cute, or you seem gay.

Exactly what you said: I assumed he was trying to hit on me.

Lean in.

(August 14, 2018 at 3:47 pm)mlmooney89 Wrote:  Even if you don't feel it doesn't automatically mean someone wants in your pants.

I gravitate towards the strongest drawl in the whole damned place.  Anywhere in the world, at all times...forever. Bubba aint queer...but he's Bubba, and I like that. Wink
I am the Infantry. I am my country’s strength in war, her deterrent in peace. I am the heart of the fight… wherever, whenever. I carry America’s faith and honor against her enemies. I am the Queen of Battle. I am what my country expects me to be, the best trained Soldier in the world. In the race for victory, I am swift, determined, and courageous, armed with a fierce will to win. Never will I fail my country’s trust. Always I fight on…through the foe, to the objective, to triumph overall. If necessary, I will fight to my death. By my steadfast courage, I have won more than 200 years of freedom. I yield not to weakness, to hunger, to cowardice, to fatigue, to superior odds, For I am mentally tough, physically strong, and morally straight. I forsake not, my country, my mission, my comrades, my sacred duty. I am relentless. I am always there, now and forever. I AM THE INFANTRY! FOLLOW ME!
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#17
RE: Bar etiquette
(August 15, 2018 at 1:15 am)Khemikal Wrote:
(August 14, 2018 at 3:47 pm)mlmooney89 Wrote:  Even if you don't feel it doesn't automatically mean someone wants in your pants.

I gravitate towards the strongest drawl in the whole damned place.  Anywhere in the world, at all times...forever.  Bubba aint queer...but he's Bubba, and I like that.  Wink

Lol then we would be friends cause my southern drawl likes to come out and play if I'm not watching it.
“What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it's supposed to be.”

Also if your signature makes my scrolling mess up "you're tacky and I hate you."
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#18
RE: Bar etiquette
(August 13, 2018 at 10:25 pm)Alexmahone Wrote: I'm a straight guy. 

I went to the bar today and the bartender wasn't at her station. Another male customer who was seated with a drink looked at me, so I said hi. He said the bartender had just gone out. She (the bartender) returned a little later and I then ordered my usual glass of red wine. The man then asked me if I was from India, so I said yes. He said he was from Punjab (which is also in India). I then went to a corner and had my drink while browsing the internet. After I finished my drink, I went to the till and paid the bill, whereupon the man asked me if I was studying here (Canada). I said yes, I was studying math at the university. He asked me if I wanted to be a teacher, I said I hadn't decided. He asked me if my parents would come to Canada. I said no, they were fine in India. I went back to my corner and continued browsing the internet for a couple of minutes upon which the man started saying something to me. I couldn't hear him, so I went up to him and then he asked me if I wanted more wine. I said I was fine, went to my seat, packed up and left with a weird feeling.

Question: What did I do wrong? Did I break some unspoken rule of bar etiquette?

You need to order a less gay drink and browse sports websites if you're ever in this situation again.

Unless you're from star trek and you just arrived on this planet surely you know that no etiquette was broken.  You just got offered a drink by a man who is most likely gay and declined the offer.


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#19
RE: Bar etiquette
Bar foul.  You -always- take the free drink. Wink
I am the Infantry. I am my country’s strength in war, her deterrent in peace. I am the heart of the fight… wherever, whenever. I carry America’s faith and honor against her enemies. I am the Queen of Battle. I am what my country expects me to be, the best trained Soldier in the world. In the race for victory, I am swift, determined, and courageous, armed with a fierce will to win. Never will I fail my country’s trust. Always I fight on…through the foe, to the objective, to triumph overall. If necessary, I will fight to my death. By my steadfast courage, I have won more than 200 years of freedom. I yield not to weakness, to hunger, to cowardice, to fatigue, to superior odds, For I am mentally tough, physically strong, and morally straight. I forsake not, my country, my mission, my comrades, my sacred duty. I am relentless. I am always there, now and forever. I AM THE INFANTRY! FOLLOW ME!
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#20
RE: Bar etiquette
The last time I was in an actual bar was a quite a while ago (almost ten years ago), but I don't see anything wrong with what transpired. Has far Bar etiquette or etiquette goes in general, it's the Trump era. Rule of etiquette we're disregarded when he was elected, not just in the U.S but around the world. Do has you like in public since social-shame is non-existed. I employ the "Fuck You, or leave me the fuck alone method when I'm in public". It's kind of funny, I'm an ass-hole in public to most everyone, but on the internet I act like a civilized person.
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