‘Submitting to my husband like it's 1959': Why I became a #TradWife

[Ranjr]

When one woman decides to live the June Cleaver life, it's very cool.  She found what makes her happy.  When someone decides to make that lifestyle a movement and promote it to others, it's creepy and suspect, like religion.

[Abaddon_ire]

It occurs to me now that this might be (sometimes) a reaction to internalised homophobia/transphobia - you know, many suffer from paranoid nagging doubts of that ilk regarding their identity because they're "just not happy." Returning to archaic gender roles might provide a "safe" feeling RE that stuff.

Baloney. My eldest is trans and I have no problem at all with it. He single handedly got the bit between his teeth and changed the dress code in his all girl school. And I was cheering him on. Frankly, his single minded determination puts me to shame, and I am no slouch.

[brewer]

We've got lot's of them in the rural/farm communities here. If it's their choice and it makes them happy then no skin off my teeth. It's not any worse than the trophy wife which many women apparently want to be.

If it's not, or no longer, their choice then there is a problem.

[Gawdzilla Sama]

The tradwife brand is a known quantity.  Has been for years.

But who would want one? Other than OLB, that is.

[Rhizomorph13]

I've heard of much weirder shit going on between consenting adults than agreeing to traditional gender norms so yeah, with consent, have at it! Woke though? no just confidently selective maybe. I don't believe in woke though and I certainly do not value wokeness. If I had my way I would be somnambulist. I use many methods to dull my senses not the least of which is a job I go to on purpose.

[The Valkyrie]

We've got lot's of them in the rural/farm communities here. If it's their choice and it makes them happy then no skin off my teeth. It's not any worse than the trophy wife which many women apparently want to be.

If it's not, or no longer, their choice then there is a problem.

Never understood either of those.

But each to their own.

[The Grand Nudger]

I'd love to have one, I do have one....but shes also the main breadwinner. I run a 501c3, lol. She has a real job. Working women -are- "traditional"...for those of us not born with the silver spoon in mouth.

[Rev. Rye]

It occurs to me now that this might be (sometimes) a reaction to internalised homophobia/transphobia - you know, many suffer from paranoid nagging doubts of that ilk regarding their identity because they're "just not happy." Returning to archaic gender roles might provide a "safe" feeling RE that stuff.

Baloney. My eldest is trans and I have no problem at all with it. He single handedly got the bit between his teeth and changed the dress code in his all girl school. And I was cheering him on. Frankly, his single minded determination puts me to shame, and I am no slouch.

And for those LGBT people who DON’T have the gumption to fight back against oppressive heteronormative norms? Because, unfortunately, they do exist.

[GUBU]

I know a woman who lives this way.  I don't get it but I suppose if you don't want to have any of the stress and financial responsibilities of being a grown-ass woman it can work for you.  If you can just glide along through life without the pressure of making decisions and carrying them out in exchange for keeping a clean house, cooking gourmet meals, and being always available for sex then I guess it could be the life for you.  (the global you)

You'll need a very rich husband though. And given the lifestyle you've chosen, you're a lot more likely to end up with a husband who'll abandon you the first time his eyes are turned.

[tackattack]

@Editz - Feeling "safe" or "at peace" is the very basis for identifying a positive result in resolving cognitive dissonance in people's lives. If you feel more safe, at peace and calm being/doing X then you're probably built to do/enjoy X.

@Rev. Rye WTF is an oppressive heteronormative norm?