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Doubting Thomas · October 24, 2011 at 10:16 am

Hi all,

You may remember my nephew Redbaron on this site, whose parents forced him to sign a "contract" saying that he would have to go to church every week or else they'd throw him out of their house. Well apparently they did just that last night. He did go to church yesterday morning, but left near the end before it was over. He was studying at a friend's house when he got a text message from his mother (my sister) telling him that they were throwing his belongings out of the house.

He returned home & had an argument with them, packed up his stuff and came over to my house last night and slept on the couch. He is welcome to stay her as long as he needs, but I'm not happy with my sister & brother-in-law over this. I do plan to call her and get her side of the story, but no matter what this is extremely drastic action for them to take. He is going to school and works part time, so it's not like he's wasting his life. The way I see it, this is no different from someone throwing their adult child out of the house because they're gay.

I know my sister thinks that her son doesn't respect her and her husband, but respect is a two-way street. He may not have respected their rules, but they never respected his beliefs. I'm thinking that they may have been bluffing and hope that he'll crawl back to them, but I think he needs to get away from that poisonous atmosphere for a while. I also think they're just totally frustrated because they can't counter his arguments over religion, and instead tried to use power, which is the only angle they had left.

frankiej · October 24, 2011 at 10:19 am

Yup... Christians are definitely loving and forgiving.

ElDinero · October 24, 2011 at 10:37 am

He's lucky to have you. Well done for having the courage to defend your young relative against overbearing parents. I hope they're able to reconcile their differences and that his parents are able to accept his beliefs. It sounds like a terrible situation.

Best of luck with it, to the pair of you.

**Minimalist** · October 24, 2011 at 10:52 am

They just chose their fantasy character over their own son. What a pair of assholes.

frankiej · October 24, 2011 at 10:53 am

(October 24, 2011 at 10:52 am)Minimalist Wrote: They just chose their fantasy character over their own son. What a pair of assholes.

It happens quite often... Fuckin' sickening.

Doubting Thomas · October 24, 2011 at 2:15 pm

Well I talked to my sister today and she says that she's tired of him not respecting them and not following the rules they set up for their house. I can respect that, but kicking your own son out for not going to church is pretty extreme. She said that she put her foot down and didn't want to kick him out, but she has to stand firm. I asked her if there were any rules he wasn't following other than not wanting to go to church, and she said not really. He's never been disrespectful to me or my wife, so I'm thinking the whole issue is the church thing. Perhaps he's only disrespectful to his parents, but as I said, respect is a two-way street. It's hard to have respect for someone who throws your clothes out in the dirt.

So that's where things stand for now. My sister did say that he could pay them some rent every month and they wouldn't make him go to church, but I don't know if they'd hang that over his head or not. I think it's probably best for him to stay away for a while. I know he's probably just a stubborn 18-year-old, but if they ever expect him to want to go to church again, they certainly didn't do it the right way.

**The Grand Nudger** · (This post was last modified: October 24, 2011 at 2:20 pm by The Grand Nudger.)

Hahaha, they're cutting out the middle man? Let's see what the collection plate thinks about that. I'm sure this is all painful and serious, sorry that I couldn't help but pick that bit out for a little levity.

**Kayenneh** · October 24, 2011 at 2:23 pm

You're a good uncle, Thomas. I hope it works out for the best and that Redbaron can cope with the situation. No matter how crappy parents one has, it would always be better if one at least got along with them..

**Mister Agenda** · October 25, 2011 at 2:45 pm

His parents are only following the example given of their deity in the Bible: God's love is highly conditional, and so is theirs.

Good luck with everything. At least he can turn to you.

**Minimalist** · October 25, 2011 at 2:49 pm

Correct. They'd rather be xtians than human beings.

There isn't much hope for assholes like that.

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