Gender Identity is a social construct, society and culture define what it means to be a male and what it means to be female. And we as individuals can decide whether these constructs best represent us, whether we are one or the other, or neither, or some combination of both, etc…
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_construction_of_gender
Me and my wife classify ourselves as male and female, and we don’t use other modifiers in this descriptions like cis, or non-binary. Yet we also share a variety of elements associated with the opposite gender. I like cooking, enjoy shopping and picking out clothes, and aesthetics, more than my wife, I’m also better at talking about my feelings, and what’s going on inside, than my wife. We’re both aggressive when need be, tough, strong, inclined to protect those we love, etc.. Some of these distinctions are more apparent when around our friends who fit more traditional gender patterns. That we share a lot things in common with the opposite gender than most others do.
Our ideas of male and female, are perhaps a lot more fluid than the social and culture constructions. For us, men and women can have a variety of things in common with each other, without negating one identify for another.
In my view, if we’re positive influences on our children's lives, our children will be less inclined to identify with the opposite gender than the general population. In our family environment they wouldn’t have to feel that certain aspects of themselves are inaccessible to their born gender, or belong exclusively to the opposite gender. Our conceptions are fluid enough that our children would feel comfortable in their own biological skin.
As long as we are a greater influence on what it means to be male and female than society, we should be successful in this endeavor.
I will add that I’m not saying that we’re actively trying to program our kids to identify with their biological gender, we’re just being ourselves, and I’m just offering a conclusion of what I think the impact of that would be on their gender identities.
I do notice that many people who identify with the opposite of their biological gender, tend to speak of gender identity as a construction out there, and I’m curious to hear how it relates at a more local level, between their fathers and mothers. If you’re a biological male, who identifies as a female, would you say you share a lot more aspects in common with your mother than father here? Do you believe that this relationship, your perceptions of them, have a significant impact on your gender identity?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_construction_of_gender
Me and my wife classify ourselves as male and female, and we don’t use other modifiers in this descriptions like cis, or non-binary. Yet we also share a variety of elements associated with the opposite gender. I like cooking, enjoy shopping and picking out clothes, and aesthetics, more than my wife, I’m also better at talking about my feelings, and what’s going on inside, than my wife. We’re both aggressive when need be, tough, strong, inclined to protect those we love, etc.. Some of these distinctions are more apparent when around our friends who fit more traditional gender patterns. That we share a lot things in common with the opposite gender than most others do.
Our ideas of male and female, are perhaps a lot more fluid than the social and culture constructions. For us, men and women can have a variety of things in common with each other, without negating one identify for another.
In my view, if we’re positive influences on our children's lives, our children will be less inclined to identify with the opposite gender than the general population. In our family environment they wouldn’t have to feel that certain aspects of themselves are inaccessible to their born gender, or belong exclusively to the opposite gender. Our conceptions are fluid enough that our children would feel comfortable in their own biological skin.
As long as we are a greater influence on what it means to be male and female than society, we should be successful in this endeavor.
I will add that I’m not saying that we’re actively trying to program our kids to identify with their biological gender, we’re just being ourselves, and I’m just offering a conclusion of what I think the impact of that would be on their gender identities.
I do notice that many people who identify with the opposite of their biological gender, tend to speak of gender identity as a construction out there, and I’m curious to hear how it relates at a more local level, between their fathers and mothers. If you’re a biological male, who identifies as a female, would you say you share a lot more aspects in common with your mother than father here? Do you believe that this relationship, your perceptions of them, have a significant impact on your gender identity?
