Porn doesn't really desensitize you, or at least it shouldn't. Performance Anxiety is a far more likely cause of feeling desensitized than porn is.

There's many studies that say porn is bad for you, and there's many studies that say it has no negative effects. In fact some studies say it has positive effects.

If you're using porn as a substitute for sex, then you're doing it wrong. Porn is a wonderful tool that allows people to explore their likes and dislikes, as well as fulfill their sexual needs outside the bedrooms. Needs that aren't always met by your partner.

Not everyone has the opportunity to have sex with a partner, Divinity, nor should one simply declare everything else "wrong". That's stupid and hurtful.

(December 23, 2015 at 11:42 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Very well said.

Thanks. I find the other typical sophomoric responses amusing. Unfettered access to pornography is changing the average person's perception of normal sexual relationships, warping and distorting their preferences and ability to actually engage in intercourse, and I doubt that they even know it. Despite not being religious, I am a traditionalist in many ways.

(December 24, 2015 at 12:04 pm)Strider Wrote:

(December 23, 2015 at 11:42 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Very well said.

Thanks. I find the other typical sophomoric responses amusing. Unfettered access to pornography is changing the average person's perception of normal sexual relationships, warping and distorting their preferences and ability to actually engage in intercourse, and I doubt that they even know it. Despite not being religious, I am a traditionalist in many ways.

Horseshit!

You have no impericle evidence of any of your claims, and as one of your "outliers" I am still aroused by the same images of beautiful women that I was when I was 16. Porn has never had any detrimental effect on my life. I have a wonderful wife that likes sex just as much as me and we've never had any issues over the past 21 years.

You are simply and completely wrong.

(December 24, 2015 at 12:26 pm)Strider Wrote:

(December 24, 2015 at 12:20 pm)Brakeman Wrote: Horseshit!

You have no impericle evidence of any of your claims, and as one of your "outliers" I am still aroused by the same images of beautiful women that I was when I was 16. Porn has never had any detrimental effect on my life. I have a wonderful wife that likes sex just as much as me and we've never had any issues over the past 21 years.

You are simply and completely wrong.

Completely wrong? Hardly.

Read all of the articles I provided a link for in my first post in this thread. There is indeed evidence and some research supporting my claims that pornography has ill effects. Also, go online and search for groups of people trying to kick porn and read their stories. I'll take hundreds and hundreds of different people's firsthand experiences (all very similar) as evidence any day.

As I said, there are outliers, as is apparently your case.

Yes, completely wrong. You are aware of the religions that fear women's sexuality and freedom from male possession so much that they condemn pornography. You are aware that this global bias would be a bitch to design a test around too right?

So lets get to the mechanics of your claims.

You say porn desensitizes. Why purpose does mental sexual sensitivity play in a healthy relationship with a partner? Are you saying that it prevents premature ejaculation? Are you claiming that it reduces sex demands on one's partner?  How much sex is required in a relationship? These are unanswerable questions because the relationship isn't based upon just sex. If I look at hundreds of naked beautifully photoshopped girls and then go to bed with my wife, I didn't just discover that my wife is not the sexiest woman on the planet. I knew that long before the internet. I knew before I married her that she had a flat butt and a "B" cup. I couldn't marry the perfect body woman if she existed, and I didn't try. I loved her for who she was and is and no amount of porn will affect that. It is the relationships that fail and fail often, that generates the anecdotal storied of porn's sinful side affects, not the other way around.

If relationships are really built upon sex then divorces should be pretty much universal as people age.

Sex is something you do not who you are. A relationship is not built upon sex and reproduction as it was during the bronze age. If you are in a great relationship you will also usually like the sex in that relationship. If your wife is unhappy that you speend too much time looking at porn then she's also unhappy that you spend too much time on-line yelling at theists.

(December 24, 2015 at 11:13 am)Divinity Wrote: If you're using porn as a substitute for sex, then you're doing it wrong.  

And when you don't get any sex...?

Quote:Porn is a wonderful tool that allows people to explore their likes and dislikes, as well as fulfill their sexual needs outside the bedrooms.  Needs that aren't always met by your partner.

And when you don't have a partner or casual sex..?

I'm just glad I'm rather bored of porn now I guess...

When I was younger I could actually have sex 10+ times a day I never really "ran out" I just got tired or had to go to class. Masturbation doesn't consume anything that doesn't build with use, like exercising your muscles.

My knowledge of sex was a boon to my wife not a hindrance. Having first time virgin like sex all the time where ignorance of the existence of other sexual bodies and methods is a hard sell to us as a panacea.

Sexual attraction is an evolutionary trait and it does not get "broken" by use. Because I had many partners in my youth does not effect my ability to maintain my monogamy now. What was difficult to overcome was the dishonesty in the other relationships, not the memory of their body image.