(May 31, 2016 at 6:17 pm)Losty Wrote: I don't think not wanting children, or even not wanting children that aren't biologically yours necessarily makes someone trash though. I think it's mature, responsible, and respectable to refuse to date women with kids if you don't want kids and/or if you don't want those particular kids. The real trash are people who date single parents and treat their kids like garbage and the parents so desperate for a BF/GF that they let it happen.

Exactly, this is the much more elegant way of saying it for sure. I strongly object to people who don't want to date someone with children being described so negatively. Maybe I just want to live my own life and not have to take care of children. Not everyone wants children and dating someone who has them means that if the relationship gets serious you are responsible for children all of the sudden. If you want children then fine, it's reasonable to date someone with them. I would have no problem dating someone with adult children, but a single mother? No thanks.

(June 1, 2016 at 1:17 pm)CapnAwesome Wrote:

(May 31, 2016 at 6:17 pm)Losty Wrote: I don't think not wanting children, or even not wanting children that aren't biologically yours necessarily makes someone trash though. I think it's mature, responsible, and respectable to refuse to date women with kids if you don't want kids and/or if you don't want those particular kids. The real trash are people who date single parents and treat their kids like garbage and the parents so desperate for a BF/GF that they let it happen.

Exactly, this is the much more elegant way of saying it for sure. I strongly object to people who don't want to date someone with children being described so negatively. Maybe I just want to live my own life and not have to take care of children. Not everyone wants children and dating someone who has them means that if the relationship gets serious you are responsible for children all of the sudden. If you want children then fine, it's reasonable to date someone with them. I would have no problem dating someone with adult children, but a single mother? No thanks.

That's you choice of course, but when I was single I dated single mothers from time to time.
It was no different to dating other single people.

(June 1, 2016 at 11:55 am)Catholic_Lady Wrote:

(June 1, 2016 at 5:43 am)Gawdzilla Wrote: I married the first time at age 34. Sharon had two sons and I met them before I met her. I saw them standing on the sidewalk watching me clean my Harley. We got to talking and, of course, they begged me for a ride. I said they would have to get their parent's permission before I'd let them on my bike. They ran off and I thought that was that, but they came back with a very pretty lady in tow. She demanded the first ride "to make sure it was safe". Yeah, sure. 

That's really sweet. 

My older sister is my half sister. My mom got pregnant with her drug dealing, abusive boyfriend when she was only 19. That was back in the days when my mom was a hippy and before she was devout and serious about her faith. She cleaned up her life after having my sister and met my dad, at which time my sister was 4. Two years later, they had me. I'm really thankful my dad stepped up to the plate to be a father to her, and didn't pass up my mother, who is one of the kindest most gentle souls I know, just because she already had a daughter.

To be clear, I didn't mean to put down those who don't want kids and thus won't date a single mom. I'm just saying I am grateful for the men who are able and willing to take on this responsibility, and who do it well. Doing so can't be the easiest or most convenient thing in the world, and so I honor them. But there is nothing wrong with those who refrain from doing so. 

As Losty said, the worst are those who don't want kids but date single moms anyway only to treat their children like crap.

(June 1, 2016 at 1:22 pm)downbeatplumb Wrote:

(June 1, 2016 at 1:17 pm)CapnAwesome Wrote: Exactly, this is the much more elegant way of saying it for sure. I strongly object to people who don't want to date someone with children being described so negatively. Maybe I just want to live my own life and not have to take care of children. Not everyone wants children and dating someone who has them means that if the relationship gets serious you are responsible for children all of the sudden. If you want children then fine, it's reasonable to date someone with them. I would have no problem dating someone with adult children, but a single mother? No thanks.

That's you choice of course, but when I was single I dated single mothers from time to time.
It was no different to dating other single people.

Unless things work out well. Then you have children to take care of. So in that matter it's very very different.

I don't think I could ever see myself dating a single parent. Imagine if things worked out we'd be the fricken Brady bunch. No thanks.

I'd consider dating a single mother, under some conditions. She has to be loving. She has to try to understand my position in the relationships. She has to be a good mother by my own values.

Also, as an aside, the OP's screenname has a truly apt anagram: Reel It Moron.

To me, dating a single dad would count against them, but I wouldn't completely rule them out because of it. If I liked them enough, and met/got along with their kid, I would date them anyway... even though I would not consider it to be the most ideal scenario beforehand.

(June 1, 2016 at 1:45 pm)Losty Wrote: I don't think I could ever see myself dating a single parent. Imagine if things worked out we'd be the fricken Brady bunch. No thanks.

I a very specific single mother

(June 1, 2016 at 3:22 pm)The_Empress Wrote: I a very specific single mother

Who!?   Where? I'll give her mayhem! 
  Muah! My smile is both cheesy and victorious.