Well, could you?

There's no right or wrong answer here, I'm just interested to see what people have to say.

I know for myself, I would personally be turned off if they were like really deep into it, especially to a point where they're into apologetics for the religion and seriously follow the "rules". I can do truly moderate/secular belief, not serious though, although I'd normally prefer to date other atheists.

What say you?

Back when I was single and looking for a future husband, it was really important for me to find someone who had the same values as I did, and a large part of that is religious beliefs.

Of course, that was back when I was super young, since I started dating my now husband when I was only 20. So perhaps if I was single now a days I'd be a little less picky. But at the time I really wanted a Catholic man.

I've never dated an atheist before. Every woman I've had a relationship with has been a believer of one stripe or another.

As long as they don't make demands upon me in that area, I'm cool. I would never date any sort of fundamentalist.

Yes, and I am right now. I guess it depends on the specifics of their beliefs and how that affects their actions.

I'm sure I could date a religious woman if I were single, but not just any garden variety believer. Their character and the manner in which they carried their belief would make all the difference. My first wife was more wooey than religious but occasionally attended a church before we got together (to sing I think). Never discussed religion with her though. My current wife is an atheist but would never visit a site like this since she can't imagine what there could possibly be to talk about. (Doesn't stop her from enjoying the occasional passage when I read her one.)

(October 30, 2016 at 11:04 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Back when I was single and looking for a future husband, it was really important for me to find someone who had the same values as I did, and a large part of that is religious beliefs.

Of course, that was back when I was super young, since I started dating my now husband when I was only 20. So perhaps if I was single now a days I'd be a little less picky. But at the time I really wanted a Catholic man.

They are good, aren't they?

I was married to one for many years. It worked OK in that regard - though it was broken for other reasons. We did become increasingly incompatible at the end though.

I don't consider theism to be an absolute bar to a romantic relationship. I cannot see myself being attracted to someone of a fundamentalist bent, however.

(October 30, 2016 at 10:58 pm)Yeauxleaux Wrote: Well, could you?

There's no right or wrong answer here, I'm just interested to see what people have to say.

I know for myself, I would personally be turned off if they were like really deep into it, especially to a point where they're into apologetics for the religion and seriously follow the "rules". I can do truly moderate/secular belief, not serious though, although I'd normally prefer to date other atheists.

What say you?

I went on a work date once with a woman who had a little crush on me (I liked her too).  The reason we even went out was because she wanted me to teach her how to make a rather complicated origami model (Daniel Kwan's six intersecting pentagonal prisms; yet, she was only familiar with how to make a fortune teller). Now, when we went on our outing, we talked for a while, and she only briefly mentioned that she had gone to Catholic school and was still Catholic, but she did not go any further into it; she followed up by asking me where I went to school, and we just talked about other things and let the conversation flow naturally. 

Eventually, we got on with the origami.  She began by folding a fortune teller.  Upon completion of her fortune teller, I proposed a trade: I'd give her a geometric sphere-like model I had folded the day before for her fortune teller; she accepted.  I then taught her how to fold a flower model; she was a little flustered, because she thought her folding was a bit off; however, I told her that it was pretty, which made her smile and relax. Finally, I taught her how to fold the eight piece pinwheel (or ninja star: the model that is a ring and then transforms into an eight pointed star); she was very happy after finishing her model. After that, we walked back to the workplace and went about our business.  

I guess the point of this recollection is that even though she was religious, it ultimately didn't matter; we enjoyed each others company.  The most memorable part of that day occurred as I headed down the escalator to go home.  One of her co-workers commented that I had done the impossible: I had gotten her to relax and be calm; this comment caused my date to give me a nice glowing smile.  Hence, I made her happy and had done something right that day; it was a very special day for me, and I enjoyed every moment of it.

Thanks for your time and attention.  Live long and prosper AF members and anyone else.

I'd be alright with it, so long as his religious beliefs wouldn't cut into proper Thena worship. 

It's about priorities.

Date? Probably not, long term.

It would nag at me. If they belonged to any organized religion... that's just a deal breaker for me.