(June 30, 2011 at 11:07 pm)Shell B Wrote: I always felt uncomfortable about the torment he pretty much personally damned me to in his mind. Even if he believed it, I always found it rude that he say it and he was only my brother-in-law. I can't imagine what having a parent like that would be like. They always insist that love drives them to say these things. I wonder if they think that is true or if they know they are being dicks.

It's such a mind fuck for those of us who have to deal with it for the rest of our lives. On one had - you have your own personal freedom and an attitude that says "fuck you - you rude asshole, I'm happy and free." Than you have your childhood memories of a parent you loved, and who you felt loved you. Than you have your resentment of all the things you missed out on, the lies you were told, and all the many more things that you are currently missing out on as an adult. Than top that all off with something that never goes away ... love of your old man ... and not wanting to hurt him even though he has betrayed you time and time again.


The majority of the time, I'm fine. But once in a rare while, usually once every few years, I lose my place and I can't separate all of the aforementioned in my head ... and I get lost for a few days. Many of the people on this forum are a great reminder that I am not alone, and admittedly, it is very comforting to know that many of you whom I will never know in real life, offer up empathy for my situation. Proof positive that no god is needed to feel the warmth and good nature in the hearts of those who would even be complete strangers.

Quote:They always insist that love drives them to say these things.

Nah....they are just insufferable pricks.

(July 1, 2011 at 12:27 am)Minimalist Wrote:

Quote:They always insist that love drives them to say these things.

Nah....they are just insufferable pricks.

maybe it's just the same 'brand' of love their god has ... I mean the dude is a HUGE prick!

I'm sorry that happened to you Cinjin, but many parents can be selfish and don't see their kids as separate human beings but merely extensions of themselves. I have to agree with the idea that he is not a good parent, and his religion is just the way he shows it. If he wasn't a fundy, he would find some other way to condemn you.

When people do things like this they're using God as an emotional surrogate. Remember it's not them that hate you, but God that hates you. It's their way of hating people without having to feel guilty.

Well said

It's must be a little depressing for you to hear your father say those things ... and you can't really get angry at him either ... because you know that he loves you and he wants you to go to Heaven.

(July 1, 2011 at 1:17 am)Rayaan Wrote: It's must be a little depressing for you to hear your father say those things ... and you can't really get angry at him either ... because you know that he loves you and he wants you to go to Heaven.

Thus my post #11. But yeah, his brand of Christianity is a destroyer.

EDIT: Fixed post number.

Typical me: You don't need a father like him when you could have a daughter like me

But seriously... that was low of him.

(July 1, 2011 at 1:25 am)Cinjin Wrote: Thus my post #19. But yeah, his brand of Christianity is a destroyer.

THIS is post # 19. You meant to say post # 11, right? ... EDIT: Good, you fixed it now.

(July 1, 2011 at 1:29 am)Aerzia Saerules Arktuos Wrote: Typical me: You don't need a father like him when you could have a daughter like me

But seriously... that was low of him.

If anybody here understands - I would definitely wager that it would be you.

We've talked. I know.