(March 13, 2017 at 7:36 pm)Mamacita Wrote:

(March 13, 2017 at 3:16 pm)The Valkyrie Wrote: Do you know anyone you can just bang without getting all committed?

A friend?  A work colleague (that wouldn't make it awkward at work)?

I'd send you Hugh Jackman but he's mine.

Or WILL be.

My precious!

Yes. I know people who wouldn't get committed, but I don't want to bang them. I also know people who I'd like to bang, but they'd want to get committed. No, thanks. As to people to whom getting committed and banging wouldn't be such a bad thing, lost my chance. I could always bang my neighbor, but then it would get awkward when we coincide at taking out the trash and bumped into each other. "Oh, not only have I heard you jacking off through the thin walls, but now I know what your crack looks like." I could bang one of my coworkers, but her girlfriend can probably whip my ass and I'm cool not being beaten up. I could get on a plane and bang someone far away, but that would take more than a day to make the trip worth our while, so I need to accumulate PTO hours at work. So you see, I've given this a lot of thought.

P.S. Since Jackman is taken, may I get Ellen Page? Thanks.  

Of course.

Want me to make the arrangements?

(March 13, 2017 at 7:36 pm)Mamacita Wrote: Yes. I know people who wouldn't get committed, but I don't want to bang them. I also know people who I'd like to bang, but they'd want to get committed. No, thanks. As to people to whom getting committed and banging wouldn't be such a bad thing, lost my chance. I could always bang my neighbor, but then it would get awkward when we coincide at taking out the trash and bumped into each other. "Oh, not only have I heard you jacking off through the thin walls, but now I know what your crack looks like." I could bang one of my coworkers, but her girlfriend can probably whip my ass and I'm cool not being beaten up. I could get on a plane and bang someone far away, but that would take more than a day to make the trip worth our while, so I need to accumulate PTO hours at work. So you see, I've given this a lot of thought.

P.S. Since Jackman is taken, may I get Ellen Page? Thanks.  

Um, like 72 hour committed (evaluation)? hehehehehe

CIJS,

I've occasionally wondered what it would be like to be a stud.  On the surface, being the object of many women's sexual desires does seem somewhat cool, especially if the stud-like gentleman enjoys the prospect of having plenty of sexual activity (provided of course that the parties involved are willing participants and are cool with it and engage in it safely/intelligently).  However, out of curiosity, could one's 'studness',  or handsomeness for that matter (which, IMO, can arguably be determined via one's culture, upbringing, and personal preference), actually make one's search for romantic relationships and lasting romantic connections with others more difficult?

(March 13, 2017 at 10:02 pm)Kernel Sohcahtoa Wrote: CIJS,

I've occasionally wondered what it would be like to be a stud.  On the surface, being the object of many women's sexual desires does seem somewhat cool, especially if the stud-like gentleman enjoys the prospect of having plenty of sexual activity (provided of course that the parties involved are willing participants and are cool with it and engage in it safely/intelligently).  However, out of curiosity, could one's 'studness',  or handsomeness for that matter (which, IMO, can arguably be determined via one's culture, upbringing, and personal preference), actually make one's search for romantic relationships and lasting romantic connections with others more difficult?

First of all, you're handsome.
Second: I don't know if more difficult, but I have an observation. I used to have a friend who was soooo much better looking than me. She's taller, thinner, and has a "babe" thing going for her. She's just model material, really. We were hanging out one day and she made an observation. She was talking about a dude that had tried to date me in the last few weeks and said something like,"I don't get it. There's cute Ivy, then there's me. Why do men go for cute when they can get hot?" No joke. She said that. Lol! It's not the fact that she's hot that makes her undesirable, it's the "stud" thing. Being a bitch. That kills it. You can be hawt as fuck and be undesirable. You can be average, but very attractive. It's the way you carry yourself that will determine how people feel towards you. Everybody looks at a hot person with lust, but when it comes to a romantic relationship as you say, there's more to it.

Now... if you can be hawt as fuck, have all that swag, and charisma... dang.

(March 13, 2017 at 10:27 pm)Mamacita Wrote:

(March 13, 2017 at 10:02 pm)Kernel Sohcahtoa Wrote: CIJS,

I've occasionally wondered what it would be like to be a stud.  On the surface, being the object of many women's sexual desires does seem somewhat cool, especially if the stud-like gentleman enjoys the prospect of having plenty of sexual activity (provided of course that the parties involved are willing participants and are cool with it and engage in it safely/intelligently).  However, out of curiosity, could one's 'studness',  or handsomeness for that matter (which, IMO, can arguably be determined via one's culture, upbringing, and personal preference), actually make one's search for romantic relationships and lasting romantic connections with others more difficult?

First of all, you're handsome.
Second: I don't know if more difficult, but I have an observation. I used to have a friend who was soooo much better looking than me. She's taller, thinner, and has a "babe" thing going for her. She's just model material, really. We were hanging out one day and she made an observation. She was talking about a dude that had tried to date me in the last few weeks and said something like,"I don't get it. There's cute Ivy, then there's me. Why do men go for cute when they can get hot?" No joke. She said that. Lol! It's not the fact that she's hot that makes her undesirable, it's the "stud" thing. Being a bitch. That kills it. You can be hawt as fuck and be undesirable. You can be average, but very attractive. It's the way you carry yourself that will determine how people feel towards you. Everybody looks at a hot person with lust, but when it comes to a romantic relationship as you say, there's more to it.

Now... if you can be hawt as fuck, have all that swag, and carisma... dang.

^This^. Eye candy or substance, having both would be fantastic. Substance (for me) is more desirable.

(March 13, 2017 at 10:27 pm)Mamacita Wrote:

(March 13, 2017 at 10:02 pm)Kernel Sohcahtoa Wrote: CIJS,

I've occasionally wondered what it would be like to be a stud.  On the surface, being the object of many women's sexual desires does seem somewhat cool, especially if the stud-like gentleman enjoys the prospect of having plenty of sexual activity (provided of course that the parties involved are willing participants and are cool with it and engage in it safely/intelligently).  However, out of curiosity, could one's 'studness',  or handsomeness for that matter (which, IMO, can arguably be determined via one's culture, upbringing, and personal preference), actually make one's search for romantic relationships and lasting romantic connections with others more difficult?

First of all, you're handsome.
Second: I don't know if more difficult, but I have an observation. I used to have a friend who was soooo much better looking than me. She's taller, thinner, and has a "babe" thing going for her. She's just model material, really. We were hanging out one day and she made an observation. She was talking about a dude that had tried to date me in the last few weeks and said something like,"I don't get it. There's cute Ivy, then there's me. Why do men go for cute when they can get hot?" No joke. She said that. Lol! It's not the fact that she's hot that makes her undesirable, it's the "stud" thing. Being a bitch. That kills it. You can be hawt as fuck and be undesirable. You can be average, but very attractive. It's the way you carry yourself that will determine how people feel towards you. Everybody looks at a hot person with lust, but when it comes to a romantic relationship as you say, there's more to it.

Now... if you can be hawt as fuck, have all that swag, and charisma... dang.

Edit.  

I appreciate your thoughtful response and the wisdom that you shared in your post.  Live long and prosper.

(March 13, 2017 at 11:06 pm)Kernel Sohcahtoa Wrote:

(March 13, 2017 at 10:27 pm)Mamacita Wrote: First of all, you're handsome.
Second: I don't know if more difficult, but I have an observation. I used to have a friend who was soooo much better looking than me. She's taller, thinner, and has a "babe" thing going for her. She's just model material, really. We were hanging out one day and she made an observation. She was talking about a dude that had tried to date me in the last few weeks and said something like,"I don't get it. There's cute Ivy, then there's me. Why do men go for cute when they can get hot?" No joke. She said that. Lol! It's not the fact that she's hot that makes her undesirable, it's the "stud" thing. Being a bitch. That kills it. You can be hawt as fuck and be undesirable. You can be average, but very attractive. It's the way you carry yourself that will determine how people feel towards you. Everybody looks at a hot person with lust, but when it comes to a romantic relationship as you say, there's more to it.

Now... if you can be hawt as fuck, have all that swag, and charisma... dang.

I appreciate your thoughtful response.  I'm sorry that you had that experience with your friend: IMO, sometimes people can be totally blind to the fact that they are being jerks/insensitive to others (I'm guilty as charged here).

With that said, I enjoyed the wisdom that you shared in your post.  I think that what you said about how one carries himself or herself has broader applications to how successful we are as people. IMO, image is not enough: who we are underneath will show through our actions, and IMO, this makes a difference in determining the level of constructive impact that people will have on the world around them.

P.S. As to the part in bold, I've always been more of a Mr. Spock type of guy: I'm a nerd at heart; therefore, a nerd I shall always be

You caught my spelling error! Thanks

Jaja (laughs in Spanish)

CIJSAIJBH,

I am not your "buddy", "bro", "boss" or anything of that sort. You delivered my sausage and pineapple pizza and cinnamon pull aparts. I have never seen you before. I spotted you $30 for a $22 order, and asked for $2 back. You seriously didn't carry any money? Sorry, "sir", but in my (perhaps old fashioned) mind, you blew it. Customer first.

(March 13, 2017 at 10:27 pm)Mamacita Wrote: First of all, you're handsome.
Second: I don't know if more difficult, but I have an observation. I used to have a friend who was soooo much better looking than me. She's taller, thinner, and has a "babe" thing going for her. She's just model material, really. We were hanging out one day and she made an observation. She was talking about a dude that had tried to date me in the last few weeks and said something like,"I don't get it. There's cute Ivy, then there's me. Why do men go for cute when they can get hot?" No joke. She said that. Lol! It's not the fact that she's hot that makes her undesirable, it's the "stud" thing. Being a bitch. That kills it. You can be hawt as fuck and be undesirable. You can be average, but very attractive. It's the way you carry yourself that will determine how people feel towards you. Everybody looks at a hot person with lust, but when it comes to a romantic relationship as you say, there's more to it.

Now... if you can be hawt as fuck, have all that swag, and charisma... dang.

I've seen many a gal go from hot to fugly in three-point-eight words. They (and the analogous guys, no doubt) seem to spend their time on looking great rather than being great.

Me, I'm no great shakes, average looks, thin build -- my best qualities aren't really visible to the quick glance-- but I have something no other guy in the world has: me. That doesn't turn the trick with most gals, but the ones who are able to see, well, that is something I find attractive, because she's shown that she's not willing to settle for first impressions, and digs a little deeper.

And yeah, I'm a swaggy mofo, in my own inimitable way.

(March 14, 2017 at 9:49 am)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: I've seen many a gal go from hot to fugly in three-point-eight words. They (and the analogous guys, no doubt) seem to spend their time on looking great rather than being great.

"What's your sign?"

All it takes.