When I first started working at my current place of employment, my buddy and I saw a couple walk in. They both had the "it" factor. They had a somethin' somethin' that made them special. Years later and I finally know what it is. They have this look in their face... a look that says they're either troubled, inspired, frustrated, bothered, or just feeling something intense. I like it.

I've met people who are very beautiful, but I find absolutely unattractive. People that have a perfect face, perfect body, perfect physique. They're dull, though. Vapid. Not outstanding. Not authentic. Not peculiar.

I just have a strong ambition for emotional and mental stimulation. I need to see expression that communicates something. The eyes that say something. The lips. The frown. Even the way a person breathes. When they're thinking, the rhythm of their chest moving as they breathe in and out...

When they speak, are they saying three more sentences with their smile and eyes than their words by mouth? Damn. Expression. Body language. Cleverness. Intelligence. Boldness. Little things that make big things. Voice patterns. Voice mannerisms. Voice. The laugh. Is it shy? Is it apologetic? Is it flirtatious? Is it arrogant? Is it upset? Damn. Expression is everything.

So there can be a person who I find sexy as fuck and you might ask why. I might respond... I like the way she breathes. I like the way he apologizes. I like the way he blinks. I like the way he taunts me when he doesn't even speak. I like the way she presses her lips when she wants to say something, but she's holding back.

And then... if the person is also beautiful, that's just icing. That's just cake.

So like... what are the little things you like?

Masculinity, or at least my take on the concept.


Unless a woman is doing it somehow, and then I freak out.

I tend to be drawn to people who are quiet, shy, emotionally and mentally broken, have a good deal of baggage, and clearly less attractive than me.

Physical: Heterochromia.

Non-physical:  A good laugh.  No giggling.

Boru

J.A.C.K., if confused terror works for ya then I'm your man!

Attraction: self confidence.

I like people with confidence, but not arrogance.

A good sense of humour, a good laugh, will get my attention.

While a terminal illness worked for Brian, I'd have to advise anyone else trying to catch my eye to not try to duplicate his technique . . . .

Anyway, small things are okay when used properly, but medium sized to large things are better.

I used to find facial expressions really sexy on a girl but these days I feel like I'm being conned.

I don't like to feel that a girl is using facials expressions on me the same way a wrestler would put moves on his opponent.  The lip bite, the wide eyed gasp, the lip pout, the upwards glance, the lip pout and upwards glance combo.  

It's a complex love hate relationship I have really.  I like facial expressions on a good looking woman's face like I'm sure the majority of straight men do.  I don't know how most other men feel about facial expressions that are purposefully put on, it annoys the fuck out of me sometimes. 
If I get the feeling that a woman is thinking about what facial expression to use next, that's what annoys me.  

I should be so lucky to have an attractive woman giving me those kind of facial expressions, I know, and I would probably give in immediately to an attractive woman who was giving me those looks no questions asked. But some part of me would be annoyed about the fake expressions.

(July 11, 2017 at 7:54 pm)paulpablo Wrote: I used to find facial expressions really sexy on a girl but these days I feel like I'm being conned.

I don't like to feel that a girl is using facials expressions on me the same way a wrestler would put moves on his opponent.  The lip bite, the wide eyed gasp, the lip pout, the upwards glance, the lip pout and upwards glance combo.  

It's a complex love hate relationship I have really.  I like facial expressions on a good looking woman's face like I'm sure the majority of straight men do.  I don't know how most other men feel about facial expressions that are purposefully put on, it annoys the fuck out of me sometimes. 
If I get the feeling that a woman is thinking about what facial expression to use next, that's what annoys me.  

I should be so lucky to have an attractive woman giving me those kind of facial expressions, I know, and I would probably give in immediately to an attractive woman who was giving me those looks no questions asked. But some part of me would be annoyed about the fake expressions.

Oh, but genuineness and authenticity are also very sexy, and distinguishing between these and play is a productive talent.