(September 25, 2017 at 10:48 am)Rhondazvous Wrote: On the contrary, remember Plato, everything we see is a copy of the idea. If we can't visualize a house, we can't build one.

How's the visualization of the perfect man showing up at your door worked so far? Any success, or do you think going out to seek him might just logically work better?

(September 25, 2017 at 10:35 am)Rhondazvous Wrote: I don't want to start a relationship. I'd rather just be in one without having to go through the angst of starting it.

But I have this running fantasy that I'll be sitting at home. an innocent by sitter quietly minding my own business when the most gorgeous guy god's got comes knocking on my door wanting to borrow a cup of sugar. I say sure daddy, come on in. I hope you like brown sugar. That's all I have. He says girl, that's all I need. And the rest...well, if I tell you, I'll have to kill you.

All of my life I've been inept at starting relationships.  It was a mixture of shyness, uber religiosity, and uncontrolled mental illness.

(September 25, 2017 at 10:48 am)Rhondazvous Wrote:

(September 25, 2017 at 10:38 am)Lutrinae Wrote: Girl, don't you know those who resort to fantasies never truly experience reality?

On the contrary, remember Plato, everything we see is a copy of the idea. If we can't visualize a house, we can't build one.

For some, fantasies are the best they have. Especially when you look like me, but that's another story.

(September 25, 2017 at 9:08 am)Lutrinae Wrote:

(September 24, 2017 at 10:43 pm)Losty Wrote: CIJS- if an image of a woman in an open robe nursing her baby is something you consider "sexualized", you've got more problems than just shitty opinions, sicko

I blame GoT.

I just can't stand to see people complain about these images saying it is "sexualizing breastfeeding". No. There's nothing sexual about breastfeeding. If you're thinking about sex when you see a woman nursing her baby there's something wrong with you not her.

What if I'm thinking about sex and then happen to see a woman breastfeeding?

(September 25, 2017 at 10:48 am)Little lunch Wrote: The food analogy would work if food was known to stay out of people's reach when it knows they're hungry and doubly so when it knows they're starving.

It fails on many different levels.

I agree. I favour more the Prince Regent's view: sex is like socks. Tons of it about and I never seem to have any. It's my own fault I freely admit. Had I kept my head when it came to it, Sam would be alive and I would never be posting this shit.

(September 25, 2017 at 2:20 pm)Cyberman Wrote: I agree. I favour more the Prince Regent's view: sex is like socks. Tons of it about and I never seem to have any. It's my own fault I freely admit. Had I kept my head when it came to it, Sam would be alive and I would never be posting this shit.

What do you mean?... Sam would be alive?

Or you can do what many, many widows and widowers do, and keep on living.

(September 25, 2017 at 3:54 pm)pocaracas Wrote:

(September 25, 2017 at 2:20 pm)Cyberman Wrote: I agree. I favour more the Prince Regent's view: sex is like socks. Tons of it about and I never seem to have any. It's my own fault I freely admit. Had I kept my head when it came to it, Sam would be alive and I would never be posting this shit.

What do you mean?... Sam would be alive?

Ok. This is cutting very deep. Sam was experiencing dizzy spells due to the hormone injections she was taking for IVF. On two occasions this brought on her seizures, which we nursed through. We even agreed to see her doctor about it the next day. That last day - Sunday - she had another dizzy spell, which she remarked was a big one. She wanted to go to her mum's house that day, which I was very much against, due to her state of health. So she rang her mum to say she wasn't up to visiting that day. Then I saw the annoyance in her face that she wasn't up to seeing her mum. So I relented and let her go, with my dad driving her there rather than risking public transport. And I never saw her alive again.

I know that if she hadn't gone that day, she would never have been alone when 'it' happened to her. My dad's a trained first aider for fuck's sake. And we could have got the ambulance to her in seconds, if it was to happen at all.

No, I'm the murdering bastard in this scenario. And I have no live with that.