AF will end in exactly 16 days, 3 hours, 22 minutes and 8 seconds.

Don't tell anyone.

Boru

(May 19, 2019 at 5:11 pm)The Valkyrie Wrote:

(May 19, 2019 at 2:20 pm)Jackalope Wrote: I personally haven't looked at the numbers but it hardly seems surprising when we had a number of members who decided they preferred to post elsewherwe .  Pretty sure wwill survive just fine.

This.

A good number of posters left screaming they wouldn't be back (even though one was logged on a couple of days ago)  Hi, youknowwhoyouare!.

It takes time for a forum to rebuilt its membership.

We'll get there.

When you flounce out and then talk lots of crap about the place you left knowing your ranting will be seen by those you flounced away from, there's not really a smooth way to slink back in.  The spying is about carrying information back to the new group and/or hoping to find that someone is wishing (no, pining) for your return.

(May 19, 2019 at 5:40 pm)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote: AF will end in exactly 16 days, 3 hours, 22 minutes and 8 seconds.

Don't tell anyone.

Boru

That's the countdown on my doomsday device.

It must be true.

(If Eric got the mix of compounds right...)

(May 19, 2019 at 5:46 pm)arewethereyet Wrote:

(May 19, 2019 at 5:11 pm)The Valkyrie Wrote: This.

A good number of posters left screaming they wouldn't be back (even though one was logged on a couple of days ago)  Hi, youknowwhoyouare!.

It takes time for a forum to rebuilt its membership.

We'll get there.

When you flounce out and then talk lots of crap about the place you left knowing your ranting will be seen by those you flounced away from, there's not really a smooth way to slink back in.  The spying is about carrying information back to the new group and/or hoping to find that someone is wishing (no, pining) for your return.

Got it in one.

"They want me back. They know it. So why won't they tell me??"

(May 19, 2019 at 5:57 pm)The Valkyrie Wrote:

(May 19, 2019 at 5:46 pm)arewethereyet Wrote: When you flounce out and then talk lots of crap about the place you left knowing your ranting will be seen by those you flounced away from, there's not really a smooth way to slink back in.  The spying is about carrying information back to the new group and/or hoping to find that someone is wishing (no, pining) for your return.

Got it in one.

"They want me back.  They know it. So why won't they tell me??"

There are those who will come back and pretend that either their hissy fit didn't happen or this place simply cannot survive without them due to their extreme preciousness.

(May 19, 2019 at 5:46 pm)arewethereyet Wrote: When you flounce out and then talk lots of crap about the place you left knowing your ranting will be seen by those you flounced away from, there's not really a smooth way to slink back in.  The spying is about carrying information back to the new group and/or hoping to find that someone is wishing (no, pining) for your return.

IDK about that. I really am pining for the return of some of the people who left. Things have settled down now, and maybe people are just testing the waters and considering coming back. I hope that's the case, anyway.

New people coming in is fine too. But, in the long run, none of that really matters.

A forum's worth is better measured by the amount of substantive discussions it has than posts per day. To me, substance is key. That's one of my favorite things about AF. Lots of substance here.

And, sure, there are other metrics by which to measure a forum's worth, but all of those metrics are way more important than posts per day. As I see it, anyway.

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(May 19, 2019 at 6:01 pm)arewethereyet Wrote: There are those who will come back and pretend that either their hissy fit didn't happen...

Well, as I see it, if people do return, maybe it's best that they don't reopen an old wound. Returning and ignoring all the BS that went down is really the only reasonable thing to do besides not returning at all.

(May 19, 2019 at 6:05 pm)vulcanlogician Wrote:

(May 19, 2019 at 5:46 pm)arewethereyet Wrote: When you flounce out and then talk lots of crap about the place you left knowing your ranting will be seen by those you flounced away from, there's not really a smooth way to slink back in.  The spying is about carrying information back to the new group and/or hoping to find that someone is wishing (no, pining) for your return.

IDK about that. I really am pining for the return of some of the people who left. Things have settled down now, and maybe people are just testing the waters and considering coming back. I hope that's the case, anyway.

New people coming in is fine too. But, in the long run, none of that really matters.

A forum's worth is better measured by the amount of substantive discussions it has than posts per day. To me, substance is key. That's one of my favorite things about AF. Lots of substance here.

And, sure, there are other metrics by which to measure a forum's worth, but all of those metrics are way more important than posts per day. As I see it, anyway.

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(May 19, 2019 at 6:01 pm)arewethereyet Wrote: There are those who will come back and pretend that either their hissy fit didn't happen...

Well, as I see it, if people do return, maybe it's best that they don't reopen an old wound. Returning and ignoring all the BS that went down is really the only reasonable thing to do besides not returning at all.

I understand what you are saying.

Hurtful things were said and done and at the very least there are some apologies that should be made in certain cases. Those could be done via PM and wouldn't have to be a public thing.

Ignoring bad behavior doesn't mean it didn't happen nor does it mean it's forgotten.

Standard reply to " did you miss me? --- Were you gone?

(May 19, 2019 at 6:01 pm)arewethereyet Wrote: There are those who will come back and pretend that either their hissy fit didn't happen or this place simply cannot survive without them due to their extreme preciousness.

You need to stop talking about me in front of my back.

(May 19, 2019 at 7:02 pm)wyzas Wrote:

(May 19, 2019 at 6:01 pm)arewethereyet Wrote: There are those who will come back and pretend that either their hissy fit didn't happen or this place simply cannot survive without them due to their extreme preciousness.

You need to stop talking about me in front of my back.

Well...you are extremely precious.