(September 5, 2014 at 9:15 am)Brian37 Wrote:

(September 5, 2014 at 9:05 am)Losty Wrote: Woosah

No you are the one who does not get it. That went soooooo over your head it makes a wind test tunnel feel like your girlfriend blowing gently in your ear.

Lol. You're adorable. Woosah my friend, it will all be ok. Accept the fact that you are angry and that's ok. Woosah.

(September 5, 2014 at 9:13 am)FatAndFaithless Wrote:

(September 5, 2014 at 9:10 am)Brian37 Wrote: "I demand you stop" is what "respect" means, having nothing to do with a mutual relationship.

Erm..I don't think that's really accurate.

YES IT IS,

People subconsciously protect their ego all the time without realizing they are doing that.

"Respect" is an abused word and does not mean what you would like it to mean. It is used to hide from conflict and criticism.

I hate that word and I will never use it.

"Would you be nice to me" as a request, can be said with those words without the ego baggage "respect" has.

If that person you make that request to does not, then YOU have the choice to continue to deal with them or not.

Respect is a weird word. People say respect is earned, not given. But my father believes he deserves respect just for being my dad. And if I do something a little out of line then somehow I have no respect at all.

(September 5, 2014 at 9:18 am)Losty Wrote:

(September 5, 2014 at 9:15 am)Brian37 Wrote: No you are the one who does not get it. That went soooooo over your head it makes a wind test tunnel feel like your girlfriend blowing gently in your ear.

Lol. You're adorable. Woosah my friend, it will all be ok. Accept the fact that you are angry and that's ok. Woosah.

Yea keep thinking that if you SWOOOOOOOSH

(September 5, 2014 at 9:23 am)Brian37 Wrote:

(September 5, 2014 at 9:13 am)FatAndFaithless Wrote: Erm..I don't think that's really accurate.

YES IT IS,

People subconsciously protect their ego all the time without realizing they are doing that.

"Respect" is an abused word and does not mean what you would like it to mean. It is used to hide from conflict and criticism.

I hate that word and I will never use it.

"Would you be nice to me" as a request, can be said with those words without the ego baggage "respect" has.

If that person you make that request to does not, then YOU have the choice to continue to deal with them or not.

Okay..

(September 5, 2014 at 9:25 am)Brian37 Wrote:

Yea keep thinking that if you SWOOOOOOOSH

No idea what that means. Lol. You're fun. Woosah

(September 5, 2014 at 9:23 am)Chad32 Wrote: Respect is a weird word. People say respect is earned, not given. But my father believes he deserves respect just for being my dad. And if I do something a little out of line then somehow I have no respect at all.

No "earned" like groveling to gain acceptance or confronting put someone in their place.

That is not morality.

No you should not have any respect for anyone or any thing. You should value people and value what they demonstrate. But you own no one any loyalty merely by demand.

No one has to prove to you anything and you do not have to grovel to them to gain acceptance.

Fuck the word respect. I use the word "value".

(September 5, 2014 at 9:29 am)Brian37 Wrote:

(September 5, 2014 at 9:23 am)Chad32 Wrote: Respect is a weird word. People say respect is earned, not given. But my father believes he deserves respect just for being my dad. And if I do something a little out of line then somehow I have no respect at all.

No "earned" like groveling to gain acceptance or confronting put someone in their place.

That is not morality.

No you should not have any respect for anyone or any thing. You should value people and value what they demonstrate. But you own no one any loyalty merely by demand.

No one has to prove to you anything and you do not have to grovel to them to gain acceptance.

Fuck the word respect. I use the word "value".

Okay.. You can use whatever word you like, I'm gonna use "respect" for what I mean by "respect".

(September 5, 2014 at 9:26 am)FatAndFaithless Wrote:

(September 5, 2014 at 9:23 am)Brian37 Wrote: YES IT IS,

People subconsciously protect their ego all the time without realizing they are doing that.

"Respect" is an abused word and does not mean what you would like it to mean. It is used to hide from conflict and criticism.

I hate that word and I will never use it.

"Would you be nice to me" as a request, can be said with those words without the ego baggage "respect" has.

If that person you make that request to does not, then YOU have the choice to continue to deal with them or not.

Okay..

No, you get used to a common usage, just like religion likes to look at only the good they do. I am pointing out the dark side of that word so that it does not get abused.

Kim Jong Un, wants "respect". My former boss at work, even when he was wrong wanted "respect". "Islam" wants "respect".

Even with parents they too want "respect" even when they are wrong.

That is the dark side of that word, and it does more damage than good, just like religious people ignore their own dark side.

It is far too abused for me to find any value in using it.

(September 4, 2014 at 1:39 pm)Brian37 Wrote: IF IF IF IF IF the word was used in a context that values instead of dictates I would agree, but for the reasons stated in the OP it is not a word worthy of use.

You can earn value too. But claims do not deserve taboos, power does not deserve taboos, which is why people invoke "respect", to set up a taboo.

(September 5, 2014 at 8:40 am)Brian37 Wrote: ARRRRRGGGGGGGGGGG!

CONTEXT, not either.or but CONTEXT, it still depends.

(September 5, 2014 at 9:02 am)Brian37 Wrote: I am not "angry" like you think, stop it please really.

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NO I DO NOT WANT TO GO ON A KILLING SPREE, M-Kay.

ARGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!

Forgive my belaboring the obvious, but given that all-caps online signifies yelling, you actually do seem pretty angry.

Not everyone sees things exactly the way you do.

Don't worry, you'll live.