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RE: Will the influence of religion always exist in my life
November 27, 2015 at 2:28 pm
I seriously hope that your parents are open-minded. From what I have heard, Mormons as a group don't tend to be tolerant of ex-Mormons, and tend to only associate with their own.
My suggestion for telling your parents would be when you are gainfully employed with your own place. Make sure you have distance and independence.
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RE: Will the influence of religion always exist in my life
November 27, 2015 at 9:59 pm
Religion will continue to have influence in your life to the extent that you want/let it. I have a feeling that it will change over time. For some it changes quickly, for others it takes longer. Still others leave it and return.
Why do you feel the need to tell your parents? Do they ask you directly "Do you believe in god/the church"? If not asked directly, I personally would let the issue slide. Of course it's up to you. Telling them flat out will be like ripping of a band-aid. It will hurt at the time and may create a scar.
My move away from god/the church was more like letting something wither on the vine. It started with questioning and getting no satisfactory response, to doubting then on to not believing. The move away from my parents and attending church was much the same. Started by telling them I wasn't getting much out of church, then didn't want to attend church, then making excuses to walk out of services and not return. They got the hint. Plus is was easier for them if I just didn't show than have to explain to the other parishioners why I kept walking out. I'm sure we had the god talk at some point but I don't have any real memories of it so it must have not been dramatic.
Good luck and best wishes.
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