The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)

[SaStrike]

Hammy is sensitive as hell. But very insensitive when it comes to others. Can dish it out very well. But can't take anything, not even a little.

That is my impression of you, with very little/minimal interaction. So don't take it as fact. But anyway why leave? It's not even bad? It's just a forum lol.

[Shell B]

Just needs a little self-control and fewer excuses, coming from someone who's considered him a friend here. That said, there are people who instigate him whose behavior in that regard isn't much better.

[Catholic_Lady]

I think people need to also remember that Ham has autism. I'm not saying we shouldn't point out unreasonable behavior, but it may be more appropriate to take a more gentle approach. I have a nephew with autism and I would hope people are patient and understanding with him.

[Shell B]

CL, I've known and been friendly with Hammy for more than five years. I've only ever said anything when he's having a particularly noticeable freakout, and I acknowledge that others are involved. The language I use mirrors the language he's used with me. That said, autism is not an excuse to accuse people of things or be rude. Being rude and owning it is perfectly fine in my book. Being unwilling to work on yourself is also completely fine in my book. Blaming it on a diagnosis or getting special treatment because of it is not. No one gives me special treatment for my diagnoses, and I don't ask for it. I accommodated the world in a way that worked for me.

[*Deidre*]

Why Hammy?

You have to reply before you can depart!

[brewer]

I'm sorry, has Hammy done something that I need to pay attention to? For me, Hammy = scroll.

[Shell B]

I'm sorry, has Hammy done something that I need to pay attention to? For me, Hammy = scroll.

Not unless you're into reruns.

[Joods]

I think people need to also remember that Ham has autism. I'm not saying we shouldn't point out unreasonable behavior, but it may be more appropriate to take a more gentle approach. I have a nephew with autism and I would hope people are patient and understanding with him.

Please don't excuse this. I have known children on the spectrum, who's behavior and meltdowns are reasonable given their place on the spectrum. Many of them can't communicate fully or function without major help. Clearly, when you have a grown adult, who is capable of full thought and can not only live on their own, as he is doing, but is able to socialize on an internet forum, they need to realize what they say can and does have an impact on other people. 

And for the record, I did try to be gentle in my approach. I even said that I was sorry, but I followed it with the fact that I felt his comments were a bit harsh. And you see the results of that, right? I end up getting called all sorts of names including a narcissistic cunt. I made two (2) posts and he blew up like a volcano over it and then proceeded to get even more pissed off because you kudosed those posts. Like What the actual fuck is wrong with that?

But okay - let's give him a pass because he has autism. He's on the higher end of that, I can guarantee it. If he wasn't, then he would not be able to live on his own, go drinking, go gambling or do any of the other things he's bragged about doing, that rational adults are able to do. 

I can't stand it when people do shit like that and expect others to just ignore the behavior or give excuses for it. We have a word for that. Enabling. Don't be one of those people, CL because that does nothing to help the other person be a better person or see past their own faults.

[FatAndFaithless]

I thought (as far as memory serves) there were several people on this forum who are on the spectrum, who don't appear to have problems interacting reasonably and politely with people, for the most part.

[Joods]

I thought (as far as memory serves) there were several people on this forum who are on the spectrum, who don't appear to have problems interacting reasonably and politely with people, for the most part.

There are. And those people, if I'm correct, tend not to let shit get way out of hand.