Peanut Gallery Commentary on the Staff Log of Bannings and such like.

[Shell B]

Side note: This mod knew for reasons that aren't about favoritism, before that shit gets started up again.

That's the confusing part. You were nice to him when it first came out (as evidenced by your comments on the departed thread when he left), and then when he came back a few months later, it's like your feelings had changed.

I assume something more must have happened between that time to make things change, but all I'm saying is there seemed to be at least some mercy at first. So you can perhaps understand where I'm coming from?

Nope. I was not nice to him. I was agreeing with him that he should leave quietly. Nothing has changed. I do understand where you’re coming from. You’ve been duped.

[Tiberius]

With all due respect, he lost his wife many many years ago. This wasn’t a recent thing. He was fine for years after, then he changed.

Also, maybe people changed their opinion about him because he started playing the victim.

[J a c k]

I’m done being silent out of pity. Stimbo, you told me that you knew I’d immediately go running to everyone in AF and tell everything in a cry for attention and I didn’t. I told the people that needed to know and I stayed quiet, because like CL and so many others, I still had some pity for you.

But you’ve pushed it.

This is what happened, people:

One day several of us around here were worried about his wellbeing, per usual. I messaged him through fb messenger to tell him we were worried and hoped he was ok. He said he wasn’t and went through his usual sadness talk. I paid attention, because I genuinely cared. Suddenly he tells me that I should pay attention to the news, because he’s about to do something, “Look out for my name in the news. I'm going to be famous.”
Then he said this was real. That it was happening. He continued, “For now? Finish getting drunk, go out, rape some bitch, get all my aggression out; I dunno.” I told him I was the wrong person to say this to, as I too have been a victim of assault. His excuse was basically that he had been a victim himself, because people stabbed him in the back and he’s lonely. Let me point out that he has the behavior of an incel that feels that they are victims of women not wanting them, therefore, they are entitled to sex.

His threats about doing something horrible and then becoming famous were significant enough for me to seek help. I don’t want blood on my hands. I asked admins about what I should in a case like this. We did what we had to do. He got butt hurt and messaged me basically again making himself a victim and me the villain. He said I’d get off on telling everyone. I didn’t tell everyone else. In fact, most staff never knew, only admins and Shell. I kept quiet, because I felt a bit sorry for him. I don’t anymore.

He’s emotionally manipulative. He picks kind hearted women with empathy to vent and cause them pity. He offers women money for physical contact. He has done this even in public (don’t remember if it was here in af or fb), but he says things like I have a lot of money that I will give away for some contact. He’s disrespectful, abusive, victim blaming, and takes no responsibility for himself.

If he’s using you and wasting your time to cause you worry and pity, run. I called him on the phone before worried sick, had talks, messaged him. Out of care. I have my own problems and don’t need to worry about a dude who thinks it’s ok to rape a random bitch. He comes here acting like he’s so fragile and everyone falls for it.

Fuck you and stay out, dude.

PS. I sent Tibs the screenshots. I’m not making this up.

[J a c k]

We all go through shit, CL. We don’t threaten to rape people.

[Shell B]

Thank you, Jack. Tibs and I sent the screenshots to the police after calling them. They were that serious. That’s how “nice” I was being to him the day this happened.

You claim to dislike incels, CL. Ball’s in your court. Protect yourself, please.

[J a c k]

I want to thank Shell and the admins for being so supportive. At first I wasn’t sure and I was doubting myself. Am I overreacting? Same way I felt each time I was assaulted. Shell is not the bully. She helped me calm down and feel supported. The aggressor is Stimbo.

So, now what? Still think he needs more acceptance?

[Shell B]

It’s brave of you to out him where he has so many friends. I’m proud of you, taco lady. Sorry you had to do it. The issue shouldn’t have been pushed.

[J a c k]

It’s brave of you to out him where he has so many friends. I’m proud of you, taco lady. Sorry you had to do it. The issue shouldn’t have been pushed.

I know I risk having all his friends turned against me, but dude. I’m not the only one he’s used for pity and I know for a fact that other women here have been under serious stress because they feel responsible for his life. Literally. It’s not fair. And it’s also not fair that staff keeps getting blamed. So, yeah. Bring it! If anyone has something to say against what I just did, speak now.

[Whateverist]

It’s brave of you to out him where he has so many friends. I’m proud of you, taco lady. Sorry you had to do it. The issue shouldn’t have been pushed.

I know I risk having all his friends turned against me, but dude. 

I doubt that.  I've always liked Stimbo but I disconnected on Fb because it became pretty unpleasant.  Given your experience with him, I'd feel the way you do.

I'm not sure how much alcohol has factored into his downward spiral.  But when it does it isn't unusual for the people closest to get burnt out and fed up.  The alcoholic can appear sympathetic to people outside his inner circle and he can make those people think you who have been closest seem horrible.  

I hope Stimbo can recover but I know I would cut off all contact if I'd gotten the sort of messages Jack did.  But being outside the inner circle and not yet badly affected I can honestly say I wish him well as he attempts to pull out of it.  And I won't think any worse of those in his inner circle who've been victimized and are now angry with him.

[J a c k]

I know I risk having all his friends turned against me, but dude. 

I doubt that.  I've always liked Stimbo but I disconnected on Fb because it became pretty unpleasant.  Given your experience with him, I'd feel the way you do.

I'm not sure how much alcohol has factored into his downward spiral.  But when it does it isn't unusual for the people closest to get burnt out and fed up.  The alcoholic can appear sympathetic to people outside his inner circle and he can make those people think you who have been closest seem horrible.  

I hope Stimbo can recover but I know I would cut off all contact if I'd gotten the sort of messages Jack did.  But being outside the inner circle and not yet badly affected I can honestly say I can wish him well as he attempts to pull out of it.  And I won't think any worse of those in his inner circle who've been victimized and are now angry with him.

If I was drunk and said something as horrible as what he said (and I wouldn’t), I’d take responsibility. I wouldn’t paint the others as villains. He has not once shown any signs of remorse.