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Gay dating in areas with no scene
September 7, 2023 at 8:17 am
In areas where there is no large or obvious gay scene (no gay nightclubs or gay dating events or clubs etc), how do folks find dating?
It seems to me that cities/towns are pretty much the only plausible option for succusful gay dating.
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RE: Gay dating in areas with no scene
September 7, 2023 at 8:35 am
I'm not gay but even I know about grindr, plus a million other apps like tinder or sites like fab swingers.
Most places in the UK aren't that desolate. Unless you're actually like some Scottish farmer scanning the horizon with binoculars looking for gay companionship.
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RE: Gay dating in areas with no scene
September 7, 2023 at 8:38 am
Dunno, even grindr seems pretty empty here. And grindr isn't really for dating, more just casual hook-ups.
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RE: Gay dating in areas with no scene
September 7, 2023 at 8:40 am
Out of curiosity where are you in the UK that's so far away from any town or city?
Not asking for anything too specific, it's just rare that someone is that far away from anywhere.
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RE: Gay dating in areas with no scene
September 8, 2023 at 8:49 am
It sounds like you're in a place where all kinds of dating would be a problem, you don't live around enough humans.
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RE: Gay dating in areas with no scene
September 8, 2023 at 11:48 am
^This. If I were trying to date and lived in an area with nothing but gay people, I imagine it’d be kinda difficult.
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RE: Gay dating in areas with no scene
September 8, 2023 at 11:52 am
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The older brother of a guy I dated in high school was gay. We lived in tiny towns in the midst of Iowa cornfields. He used to go to St. Louis and Chicago to find scenes. As far as I know, there still isn't a scene in the area where I grew up.
There are probably more options a little closer now than SL and Chitown.
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RE: Gay dating in areas with no scene
September 8, 2023 at 11:57 am
Having grown up in a small town, knowing other gay people more by common sense than association, we all had to move away to find a gay scene elsewhere in the state.
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RE: Gay dating in areas with no scene
September 8, 2023 at 1:01 pm
I live in San Diego.
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