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RE: girlish girls, manly men.
December 17, 2014 at 4:18 pm
(December 17, 2014 at 3:51 pm)alpha male Wrote: Example - Male but not a man
Woman: What do you want for dinner tonight?
Male but not a man: Well, we could have fish if you want that, or if you don't want to cook we could order a pizza, or maybe a steak...what do you think? Hell, if the only thing he said was "maybe a steak" you would realize he wasn't a man.
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RE: girlish girls, manly men.
December 17, 2014 at 4:20 pm
(December 17, 2014 at 4:02 pm)alpha male Wrote: (December 17, 2014 at 3:58 pm)Beccs Wrote: So, what makes a man is being able to make a decision about dinner? It takes a lot more than that to make a man, but if the male can't make such a simple decision, he's certainly not a man.
Actually I think one of the signs of a man is to occasionally make dinner for his partner or help out making dinner.
I wouldn't be a kitchen slave to any man.
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RE: girlish girls, manly men.
December 17, 2014 at 4:22 pm
I think the sign of an evolved human being is to be able to offer options to their partner in order to create compromise, not just make a decision based on their own selfish decisions.
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RE: girlish girls, manly men.
December 17, 2014 at 4:34 pm
(December 17, 2014 at 4:22 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: I think the sign of an evolved human being is to be able to offer options to their partner in order to create compromise, not just make a decision based on their own selfish decisions. How is that working out for you?
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RE: girlish girls, manly men.
December 17, 2014 at 4:35 pm
Quite well, when both parties act in accordance with compromise.
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RE: girlish girls, manly men.
December 17, 2014 at 4:38 pm
(December 17, 2014 at 4:34 pm)alpha male Wrote: (December 17, 2014 at 4:22 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: I think the sign of an evolved human being is to be able to offer options to their partner in order to create compromise, not just make a decision based on their own selfish decisions. How is that working out for you?
Working out perfectly for me.
I'm a happy, single woman whose last relationship was with someone who is in the same profession as me. Both of us are type A personalities and we both tried to be the "dominant". We reached a compromise that worked out perfectly for us both.
Relationships are, or should be, a partnership. Not a master, slave relationship, as far as I'm concerned.
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RE: girlish girls, manly men.
December 17, 2014 at 4:38 pm
(December 17, 2014 at 4:35 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: Quite well, when both parties act in accordance with compromise. Hehe, nice non-answer. 
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RE: girlish girls, manly men.
December 17, 2014 at 4:39 pm
My wife is in charge because I am crap at everything.
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RE: girlish girls, manly men.
December 17, 2014 at 4:40 pm
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(December 17, 2014 at 4:38 pm)Beccs Wrote: Working out perfectly for me.
I'm a happy, single woman whose last relationship was with someone who is in the same profession as me. Both of us are type A personalities and we both tried to be the "dominant". We reached a compromise that worked out perfectly for us both. Considering the past tense, I'd guess that the compromise didn't work out as well as you claim.
(December 17, 2014 at 4:39 pm)robvalue Wrote: My wife is in charge because I am crap at everything. This creates a spiral. You'll continue to be crap at everything because your wife is in charge. Man up before she starts looking elsewhere.
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RE: girlish girls, manly men.
December 17, 2014 at 4:42 pm
(December 17, 2014 at 4:40 pm)alpha male Wrote: (December 17, 2014 at 4:38 pm)Beccs Wrote: Working out perfectly for me.
I'm a happy, single woman whose last relationship was with someone who is in the same profession as me. Both of us are type A personalities and we both tried to be the "dominant". We reached a compromise that worked out perfectly for us both. Considering the past tense, I'd guess that the compromise didn't work out as well as you claim.
Worked out fine. We're still friends and we didn't want to carry on a long distance relationship when I took up a job in NZ. He's still in Melbourne.
I notice you immediately homed in on that one aspect of what I said and ignored the rest.
Why is that?
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