Any advice on coming out to my parents?

[Pyrrho]

These situations are always tough because there are too many variables. Will they throw you out of the house?  Will they send your brother to a seminary?  Are you self-supporting? 

Further, you don't have to make a grand announcement.  Just drift away.  Make it a point to always have something else to do when they want to start their jesus crap.  That should not be too hard to arrange.

I am moving on to college in two weeks so I will be out of the house thankfully. I am not dependent on their money either because I have a full scholarship to college. So, I do not think I will have much of a problem if they have a really negative reaction.

However, my brother still has to live with them for 4 more years. He has said to me that when I'm gone to college if they try to make him go to church he will refuse. So, I just feel like it is all going to come out at once in the wrong way. 

Thanks for the advice by the way. I guess instead of announcing it ill just distance myself and if it comes out somehow then so be it.

Your brother complicates things, as your coming out might impact his life.  They might double down on him to make sure he is a good Christian if you tell them that you are an atheist.  After all, what they did with you was not enough to get the desired result, so your brother might go through hell if you tell your parents.  But it all depends on what your parents are like.

Really, it is impossible for us to know enough about the details of your situation to properly advise you.  I personally have never explicitly told my parents.  One of them is dead, and as I am far from young myself, the other is very, very old (older than most people reading this will probably ever be).  My mother would worry that I would burn in hell forever if she knew I was an atheist.  So why tell her?  If it would actually accomplish something useful, I would likely tell her, but I do not see any reason to do so.

In my case, some family members know, and some suspect.  But there is a difference between suspecting something and having it confirmed.

I don't bring up the subject in front of my mother or other overly religious relatives, and do not say anything to tell them that I do or do not believe in a god.  I feel no obligation to tell other people what I believe or don't believe.  That is, not generally.  I would not have married someone without discussing such things, and so my wife knows a good deal about my beliefs, and I know a good deal about her beliefs.  She is a nice atheist woman.  I recommend not settling for less.

But back to the topic at hand.  It is impossible for us to know whether telling them anything is a good idea or not.  So, if I were going to give generic advice, I would advise you not to tell them.  You will miss out on any possible benefit of telling them, but you avoid all problems associated with telling them.  Really, what do you gain by telling them?

Before someone goes on about honesty and not living a lie, blah, blah, blah, do you also tell them about your preferred sexual positions?  How often you masturbate, and what you think about when you do so?  Really, one does not need to tell everyone everything about one's life.  It does not make one dishonest to keep some things private.