Any advice on coming out to my parents?

[Pyrrho]

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I am moving on to college in two weeks so I will be out of the house thankfully. I am not dependent on their money either because I have a full scholarship to college. So, I do not think I will have much of a problem if they have a really negative reaction.

However, my brother still has to live with them for 4 more years. He has said to me that when I'm gone to college if they try to make him go to church he will refuse. So, I just feel like it is all going to come out at once in the wrong way. 

Thanks for the advice by the way. I guess instead of announcing it ill just distance myself and if it comes out somehow then so be it.

I gather you are more worried about hurting your parents or making life difficult for your brother anything else about coming out?  If so I like the simply distancing yourself idea.

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  However, I would think through in advance how you are going to handle it when your parents ask you about your brother, because that is probably going to happen.

I would advise him to say that they should ask his brother what he believes.  He can say he is not a mind reader, and so if they want to know what his brother his thinking, it would be better to ask him.  I would absolutely not tell my parents what my brother believes in such cases.  Besides, one's brother could change his mind since the last time he said anything, so the information might be out of date anyway.

It is not for him to decide whether or not his brother comes out.  That should be his brother's decision.