atheism and children

[Aroura]

I'm going to be the only person in catagory c...how embarassing, lol.

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To be fair, I became disabled in my mid 20's with severe anxiety and panic disorder.  I never wanted kids with my first husband, because he was a total loser (don't get married at 19 kids!), but after divorcing him and meeting me new husband, I didn't want kids because:
a) I did not feel I would be a good mother because of my illness.
b) I had very little money.
c) I do think the future is likely to be difficult with possible issues with things like food shortages, dwindling access to clean drinking water, etc.
b) The world is already overpopulated and I did not want to add to the population problem!

My hubby moved us to the coast for my health, and it seems to have worked because as I became less stressed out...and then I got pregnant.  At 32 and using more than 1 kind of BC, it was really unexpected.  But we both agreed that this was really our only shot to have a child, so we decided to keep her.  I was getting better with my anxiety, hubby had an ok job, it was the right timing I guess.

However, I signed paperwork to have my tubes tied before I hit 3 months of pregnancy. I had the surgery done about 90 minutes after giving birth.  One child is all we will ever have for all the same reasons still listed above.

I love my daughter (I feel like I would literally die without her, now), and I love kids in general (otherwise I could not be a Girl Scout leader!) but it does make me a little sick to see large families in this day and age.  I don't think people should have more than 2 kids, for the sake of those very same kids.  Honestly.

However, I do notice more and more families only have one or 2 kids.  ALL of my kids friends are only children or only have one sibling.  I still see families with 5 or 6 kids around, but it seems that trend is less common now.  It's just time for humanity to suck it up and realize you can't just pop out a dozen kids anymore.  
200 years ago, yes, because sadly a lot of your kids would die before age 5, plus people often used kids as labor devices in their shops or on their farms.  And people did not have access to any family planning tools.  

Nowadays, there is no excuse in developed countries to have more than 3 kids, except utter blind selfish stupidity. Just IMHO.

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Feel free to ignore this question, as it is rather personal.  Why didn't your husband get a vasectomy beforehand?  It is cheap, effective, and safe.

It's ok, it's weirdly impersonal talking about it here. lol

Truth is, I don't really know, it just never was opportune or seemed necessary I guess.
When we met, we'd discussed it and both agreed no children. I only got sicker though, and I don't think I could have gotten pregnant and carried a baby to term for the next 3 or 4 years anyway.  We were close to homeless, I had been unable to hold a job for ages, and (very long story short) ended up living in my moms backyard in a rusty old trailer.  I didn't have money to get prescription BC so we just used OTC stuff.  But we used it every time.  Neither of us had any insurance.  We lived on food stamps and money from him mowing lawns for a little while.  A vasectomy at that time was out of the question.  A few hundred bucks may as well have been a few million.

My hubby joined the military soon after just so I would get health insurance.  I got a diagnosis, treatment, and started to get better.  When he left the military (honorable medical discharge from a torn ACL tendon), he decided to move us to the coast to help my health keep getting better.  

We lived at the coast like 2 months before I got pregnant.  I blame the fresh, sea air. :/  

At THAT point we discussed him getting a vasectomy (closing the barn door after the horse is out, I know), but we were still extremely poor. I had health insurance at that time, and he had none that would cover a vasectomy.  So we decided to get me fixed instead of him, for financial reasons.