Homophobia. A misleading label

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From my perspective, phobia seems an appropriate label.

What?? No where in your examples did you list any behaviors that would be considered a 'phobia' in the clinical sense. Even the fella who said he had a fear of being raped by homos, as you pointed out, has rape anxiety, not a fear of the homos themselves. Phobias cause and are normally associated with dysfunction and unpleasant anxieties. My sexual prejudice does not inhibit my 'function' and causes no anxieties. Uncomfortable in their presence maybe, but a long way from anxiety and not being able to function.

So how the hell is 'phobia' an accurate discriptor?

Did you read the OP?

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hate [heyt]
verb, hat·ed, hat·ing
–verb (used with object)
1.
to dislike intensely or passionately; to hate bigotry.
2.
to be unwilling; dislike
–verb (used without object)
3.
to feel intense dislike, or extreme aversion or hostility.

To be fair, you do hate.
You just described hate to me. It involves dislike and hostility, just like hate does. I do agree that homophobia has been twisted into something it's not, and I respect that you don't like homosexuals, or women, even though I don't agree with your views.

No you seem to be ignoring those very important discriptors in the definition of 'Hate'. Intensely Passionately Extreme . While I do harbor a dislike and adversion in no way are they passionate, intense or exteme.