(September 10, 2015 at 2:02 am)Divinity Wrote: I think sex ed should be up to the parents, but the parents refuse to actually teach it. I taught my kids about sex. I mean I was a pre-teen mother, and my mother had me when she was in her early teens herself. So I saw first hand the consequences of not knowing about safe sex. I was curious about sex a bit earlier than most. My mom never gave me the talk because she never had the talk (her parents died when she was 11). My dad didn't because that's just not how he did things. I guess I was just lucky he stuck around. He could have easily avoided my mother, and I'd have grown up with just my mom.
I didn't teach my kids abstinence. I taught them to be smart (something I didn't learn until after I had five kids by the age of 23). I taught them to be safe, and not to be fucking stupid. I didn't treat sex as something that was to be saved for marriage, or that it was something sacred or any bullshit like that. I taught them that their urges were normal, and to keep the fucking door shut.
It can't be left up to the parents because parent's don't want to teach some of the important things. Ideally the parents would, and then they could tell their kids what they expected of them themselves. Some might expect abstinence. I didn't. Many people might call me a bad mother because I didn't. I was pretty lenient with my kids, so long as they didn't fuck up royally. But I think they turned out pretty fucking awesome (except for one of them, but he's a douchebag. I blame genetics.) Parents wont' give the talk, so schools are being forced to. They think their children have delicate ears. I knew my kids could handle it, and they did. Not a single one of them got pregnant or got a girl pregnant before they were 20.
Please talk more, if you feel comfortable. Five kids by twenty three isn't something I hear about very often. I imagine your story is fascinating.
Nolite te bastardes carborundorum.
