All white people are racists...or "white fragility" ??

[Regina]

I think everyone has some racism in them. It's not just white people, your Asian friend, who has also been raised in a society which has undertones of white supremacy, will also have racist views. People are products of their environment. I think when you're born and raised in a country like America, where the notion of "race" and white supremacy is so deeply woven into the fabric of the country, it's downright impossible not to have some racist views. That doesn't mean you're inherently a bad person, it just means you've been indoctrinated with a lot of shitty conditioning you need to unlearn.

I think most people (especially white people but not exclusively) don't see themselves as racist just because they agree that slavery, genocide, segregation and lynching are bad. That's all we see as "racism", when people are "really" being hurt, we see the more subtle manifestations as harmless and petty when people complain.

I'm white and I do think "white fragility" is a thing, there are a lot of white people who act like being told they said something a bit backwards is somehow worse than experiencing racism. Sure, I think there comes a point where people definitely can say prejudiced, fucked up, hell I'll even say racist things about white people, but being told "be careful, that sounded problematic because..." is not racism.