RE: Would you be flattered if a gay person said they fancied you?
September 27, 2015 at 2:41 pm
(This post was last modified: September 27, 2015 at 2:41 pm by MTL.)
(July 6, 2015 at 5:34 pm)emjay Wrote: If you say you fancy someone, that's quite a general statement which the other can then ask 'what is it they find attractive about me?'. In the absence of further information people may jump to their own conclusions. And if they're homophobic and have notions about what a gay person finds attractive, then they may actually conclude 'he fancies me because he thinks I'm gay, or effeminate' or whatever and therefore take it as an insult. The problem with all of that basically coming from the statement being general whereas perhaps it wouldn't be a problem with more specific compliments like 'you've got a great six-pack' because that sort of compliment can't be misunderstood. It's just a theory and I wonder if there's any truth in it, hence the thread.
I get that, but I think that comes down to insecurity and ignorance on the part of the offended straight person,
who is assuming that just because a gay person compliments them,
that that MUST mean "omg, do I look gay?"
All they need to do is say "thank you". That's all.