RE: How would you react to a gay person who found you TOTALLY repulsive ?
September 27, 2015 at 2:41 pm
(September 27, 2015 at 1:46 pm)Pyrrho Wrote:(September 27, 2015 at 1:38 pm)emjay Wrote: Some people just seem to get a kick out of being brutally honest about everything without regard to social conventions. There was one guy at college who was like that and he was a right pain in the arse. To him I would like to have said, little white lies and politeness exist for a reason.
I'd never feel the need or desire to say that to someone unprovoked, but maybe if I was under threat somehow. So another one to add, from a gay perspective, is when straight guys who think they're all that are taking the piss, then it's quite satisfying to turn the tables and see their faces drop
In this sort of case, one typically can completely avoid dishonesty and just not say anything about the appearance of others. I usually do not go about offering my opinion on the appearance of others, regardless of whether I find the person attractive, repulsive, or indifferent.
If you meet someone like him again, you might want to memorize this phrase to respond to any unprovoked crap from him or her:
"If I want your opinion, I will ask for it."
I agree there's no reason to say anything if you feel indifferent or repulsed, but I can't deny I do like to flirt which requires saying if I find someone attractive. But as I've said elsewhere, only among friends, and only if I think it would be welcome. But if someone makes it clear that they don't want to know either way, as you have and others have in the past, I totally respect that, and wouldn't go there.
Unfortunately, with the brutally honest, your recommendation doesn't usually work, for me anyway
