Would you be flattered if a gay person said they fancied you?

[MTL]

I'm not. Admittedly, I spent my high school years in a parochial boy's only school, and a lot of the boys flirted with me. I did not enjoy it. I estimate that of my 200-strong graduating class, about half of them made a pass at me at some point. Sadly, when I declined them, quite a few did not simply stop, with a few going so far as groping me and even one incident where a student grabbed me from behind and dry-humped me against my will. Of course, since we were both clothed when he did it (and he couldn't be bothered to pull my clothes away), I'm not sure if it technically counts as rape.

Still, I'm well aware that most gay people will at least know not to keep at it when flirting with a straight person, and likely a lot of what I had to go through was closer to prison sexuality than regular gay people, but it still brings up bad times for me.

I would say that that definitely constitutes a sexual assault.

I'm a straight woman and if anyone, male or female, did that to me, that's how I'd regard it.

I was in a less-severe situation, myself:

I have always been supportive of LGBT rights and pride.
But I am a straight woman.

I attended one event with two women, in support of the cause.
One woman was bisexual, whom I knew from school...a really nice lady.

The other woman was her friend, whom I didn't know so well, and she was a lesbian.

Everything was fine, all night, until this woman had a few drinks in her,
and then she seemed to expect a kiss from me...a real kiss.

I did nothing to lead her on, and I was uncomfortable.

I don't think she meant it as an assault, she was just wasted,
and maybe she liked me and her inhibitions were loosened,
or perhaps somewhere in her mind,
she convinced herself that I was bi-curious or something
...but it was inappropriate, in any event.

I am 100% pro-LGBT rights,

but I get very annoyed with any LGBT friends,
when they think it's okay to disregard someone who politely declines their advances,

because we spend all this time educating homophobes to "just take it as a compliment",
and not see it as a threat;

But if you cross that line, you have now vindicated their fears about gay people not taking no for an answer.

It's not suddenly okay to sexually harass someone just because
you think the person is a bit uptight or homophobic, and needs to "loosen up".

That's no better than a straight male sexually harassing a lesbian
and telling her "she's just never had a real man".

Having said all that,
I think that the majority of gay people will respect "no thanks" for an answer,

and yes, I generally accept it as a compliment, as long as it's respectful.