RE: Porn and Christians
October 5, 2015 at 9:05 pm
(This post was last modified: October 5, 2015 at 9:09 pm by Jenny A.)
(October 5, 2015 at 8:41 pm)lkingpinl Wrote: Ok so during our Skype group call tonight, porn was brought up. I was one of two Christians on the call and during the discussion I noticed a few comments about a certain stereotype regarding how people see Christians and sex.
Let me just start by saying that I in no way judge anyone viewing porn. Whatever you want to do/enjoy is none of my business, but I wanted to just give at least my personal perspective on porn and sex as a Christian. I didn't start this to admonish anyone.
I'm sure you don't mean to admonish. But every anti porn campaign I've ever seen was started by a Christian, Muslim, or feminist. Politics make strange bedfellows (pun intended.)
(October 5, 2015 at 8:41 pm)lkingpinl Wrote: I have 5 kids. Obviously I'm no stranger to sex.
Well we know know you've had it at least five times. . .
(October 5, 2015 at 8:41 pm)lkingpinl Wrote: Sex is awesome. I'm also not a prude and not ashamed to talk about sex with my spouse, we have discussions quite regularly about it in fact. I think a lot of people feel Christians think sex is dirty, gross, something to be ashamed of, etc. Not at all. To me sex carries much more than satisfying physical desires or biological impulses. Sex is deep and emotional. Can it be purely physical? Absolutely. But I think there is an intense emotional aspect to it.
It is great ain't it? And yes there is an emotional aspect to it, especially if it's really good sex.
(October 5, 2015 at 8:41 pm)lkingpinl Wrote: Someone brought up one night stands are cool, so long as there is enough alcohol to forget about it. That right there tells me there is an emotional component to it as well. Feeling a sense of guilt for wanting to only satisfy a baser urge. Sex as an experience can be enjoyed at incredible levels when you have a strong emotional relationship with your partner.
I've never had sex with anyone I wasn't in love with. So you can imagine my one night stand count is about zero. The idea that anyone would do anything that they needed alcohol to forget strikes me as a bad idea.
(October 5, 2015 at 8:41 pm)lkingpinl Wrote: Porn to me is just not appealing. Watching other people do it does not get me in the mood. Sex is about being personal and intimate with one person and one person that you care deeply about. A person that knows the real you. That you can be who you are around, who lifts you up, cares for you, will do anything for you. I may be a hopeless romantic and extremely sappy, but sex is about love. Like I said I know it can be enjoyed from a physical aspect, but there is more to it than that, at least for me. So while porn can certainly provide a fulfillment for the base urges, I think it falls desperately short on the overall experience.
I guess my perspective is different. I do enjoy a number of things that might be called porn, but they also have great emotional resonance. Anne Rice springs to mind, but my mind tends to go BDSM. And BDSM requires a great deal of communication and trust both.
(October 5, 2015 at 8:41 pm)lkingpinl Wrote: Everyone has their own opinions on it and I'm sure you all know me by now that I have no problem with that, but I wanted to start this thread and give my personal Christian perspective on the topic.
My question is this. Is this your perspective because you are a Christian, or is it more innate?
If there is a god, I want to believe that there is a god. If there is not a god, I want to believe that there is no god.