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Interaction doesn't typically start out with the bullying... it's usually something present piecemeal, that can later develop further and further until by the time a victim of cyber bullying knows what's going on: they're tied into a scenario which has no positive end for them. This is especially true of teenagers, and.... children.... but they're far from the only ones susceptible. .... They're just the... 'easiest'...
In its worst forms, cyber bullying is a mechanism by which predators can get worm inside a head, suggest what a head ought think, tell a head what's real... endgames range from simple powerplay (blackmail, public humiliation, friend-dictation, driving someone to self harm, general orders, and suicide)... to physical/offline continuance (mailing threats and demands, stalking, kidnapping (trafficking), <meeting someone you don't know what looks like in person in a place far from home... hehheh... you can imagine>).
It is far more commonly performed by groups of peers, endgames include social disenfranchisement, role restructuring, hazing, monkey's truth slander, gangrape, blackmail, competition cleansing, and, well, 'service'.
Most commonly by far... it is performed in a mass scale by disconnected persons (plenty of whom are likely to be anonymous or strangers) who each leave plays upon a person, often enough unintentionally and typically devoid of an endgame, the combined effect of a thousand papercuts to self-worth, reputation... a feeling that the entire world hates them, which leads to a plethora of self-harm and self-negligence, typically results in depression (at the best), and can certainly crush a person's, ahh... good humor.
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You uninstall your accounts, they find you again with the information they already have... you run, they chase you without taking a step... cyber bullying, at its most effective: can effectively force a person to abandon everything they know and 'who' they are, and still live their life paranoid that they've been found and that it's never going to stop... the only way out... some feel... and are encouraged to feel... is death.
Please try therapy, and if it gets real bad and you're contemplating suicide... get the police involved. Please. If you have a best friend who stands by you, *in the flesh*: now's a good time to talk to them. Remember to get to therapy. 1 (800) 273-8255 also, call that if you can: the person on that line can direct you to effective help.
ignoramus Wrote:What about boys?
Usually have fewer social protections, and are often enough assumed able to handle their own problems.
... 2 traits that can make them ridiculously easy to target.
Teenaged transgirls... can be incredibly vulnerable.
Quote:If someone's gonna get depressed over fb, maybe they got bigger problems to begin with?
Not necessarily... but facebook tends to leak into your physical realm, particularly at work, with your family and (hah) friends, and at school.
Previously perfectly psychologically healthy people can find themselves experiencing considerable stress and depression, particularly when inclusive of blackmail, and social disenfranchisement. Pull a person's support, isolate them... and then you're the only one left whom 'they can trust'... their only 'pillar of support' left... manage that, and you can right fuck with any person's head real good.
Quote:What about as adults? Are adults immune to this sort of childish behavoir?
Adults and older teenagers are typically responsible for the 'more egregious' forms of targeted cyber bullying... but no. <Workplace politics> is the most common formset towards adults, that and familial politics, in particularly brutal cases.
Also, post-breakups can be messy... and if two people were mutual friends with a group, it is fairly common that the friendships split, often enough into an all opposed to 1-2 scenario.
Quote:Talk to me or I'll tell everybody you have invisible friends in the sky!
Not necessarily a good thing to say when it comes to cyber stalking, hehe...
It's not a good subject for me, so... I'm not going to be 'contributing' anything else in this thread. I'm sorry.
