(November 7, 2015 at 3:31 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote:(November 7, 2015 at 2:40 pm)drfuzzy Wrote: The minute a woman points this out, guys get angry and defensive. They think we're calling them monsters. No. But the monsters are out there. And it's male voices that need to be fighting against domestic violence and rape.
Men do speak out on those issues. And I'm all for keeping children away from abusive parents of either gender.
The only thing that bugs me when this topic arises is that questioning the narrative often sees the man labeled as "angry" and "defensive".
(November 7, 2015 at 2:40 pm)drfuzzy Wrote: When our society changes, and the courts don't see the 1/3 of children as rape victims, the fathers will have a more equal chance in the courts.
I highly doubt that custodial decisions are made based on statistical likelihood for abuse.
Hey, I'm not attacking here. I'm only pointing out what I see.
I did read your response to my post as defensive. But then, men and woman have different conversational patterns, and we interpret things very differently.
In general, we seem to be on the same page here. Neither of us want to see children in danger from either parent, or any other guardian. And any time I meet a guy who is willing to speak out against violence and the pervasive culture that causes it, he gets a little imaginary halo over his head in my book.
I don't think that judges sit and weigh out any population statistic either. But I think that they're human, they have to be influenced by what they deal with every day. I think they look at past history from each parent, and the testimony of family members, and then just choose.
What do you think the custodial decisions are based on?
"The family that prays together...is brainwashing their children."- Albert Einstein
