Struggling with Catholic Partner

[Exian]

The kids thing is a big concern.

My son is 10 and her son is 5.

In the past 6 months my 10 year old son has been introduced to the words 'f**k, S**t, F*rt' and been kicked and punched by a 5 year old instead of 'hello & thank you' during the few visits.

It drives me bonkers as my partner is a teacher - but thinks this is normal - and doesn't accept this is an issue.

Should I be seeking advice from a parenting site to save our relationship? Or should I walk away?

I have an only child who is 10yo, and my sister recently moved in with me for a while and she has an 11, 8, and 6 year old. They grew up together pounding each other in the head. Depending on their mood, they'll laugh it off or cry; usually depending on whether or not they want the other one in trouble. My daughter never grew up with anything like that, so it's a shock to her (and me a little). So the "it's normal" thing is a little true, but it's perspective, I guess.

But yeah, I wouldn't call that a conflict born out of a difference of views on god. That's common. That's also one of the bigger reasons why I've stayed single after our split. I don't really have it in me to cram a completely different way of life into ours, but I'm envious of people like you who aren't afraid to give it a shot.

It seems like you like this woman a lot and I think that should heavily factor into your decision. If you think this could be a good thing for you, do whatever you think will help. And remember kids grow up fast and go through a shit ton of phases. Yours is about to go through some big changes and hers is still very young and impressionable. Who knows how they'll treat each other in half a year or so?

F*rt is either "fart" or you Australians have been holding out on me on some new cuss words.