[shrugs] you have your opinion based on your experience. I don't purposely fuck ANYONE over, much as I joke, and I actively avoid doing it accidentally (I don't always succeed, sure). Just attempting to add a little fairness. Not all of us are a basket of crazy. I'm a big believer in friends-with-benefits instead of starting up some meaningless relationship where you waste time, energy, and money just to get your kicks, all to end up in a hot mess just because some women need the title of "relationship" tacked on to make themselves feel better.
And maybe you enjoy being alone, and I certainly would rather be so than waste time on a schmuck who isn't worth it, but plenty of people find the idea of being companionless to be scary. I didn't say it was right, it's just what happens. Even worse, if you are a solitary person (or at least solitary woman) you run the risk of getting ridicule from the general public because you "can't get a man" to escort you wherever you are. I'm not trying to pull an Eil here about how hard it is to be a woman, I'm just pointing out the things some people (including myself) go through. It gets as fucktarded as a man approaching me at a self-serve carwash and telling me my time ought to be spent finding a man to do that for me. Washing a car. Seriously. Don't even get me started on the crap you get for going to a restaurant or movies alone.
Some people find it daunting to not have companionship, and some people are scared of how society is going to perceive them if they present themselves as single. Like they're not good enough to have caught someone. It's a self-esteem issue.
Me personally, I think every relationship causes you to wade through bullshit - the difference is finding someone who's going to help you shovel it rather than just scattering it around. Save your energies for that person. Even better if they're talented enough to help you turn it into useful compost.
And maybe you enjoy being alone, and I certainly would rather be so than waste time on a schmuck who isn't worth it, but plenty of people find the idea of being companionless to be scary. I didn't say it was right, it's just what happens. Even worse, if you are a solitary person (or at least solitary woman) you run the risk of getting ridicule from the general public because you "can't get a man" to escort you wherever you are. I'm not trying to pull an Eil here about how hard it is to be a woman, I'm just pointing out the things some people (including myself) go through. It gets as fucktarded as a man approaching me at a self-serve carwash and telling me my time ought to be spent finding a man to do that for me. Washing a car. Seriously. Don't even get me started on the crap you get for going to a restaurant or movies alone.
Some people find it daunting to not have companionship, and some people are scared of how society is going to perceive them if they present themselves as single. Like they're not good enough to have caught someone. It's a self-esteem issue.
Me personally, I think every relationship causes you to wade through bullshit - the difference is finding someone who's going to help you shovel it rather than just scattering it around. Save your energies for that person. Even better if they're talented enough to help you turn it into useful compost.
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