(December 6, 2015 at 7:06 pm)Yeauxleaux Wrote: A part of me does think it's important to at least document somewhere who both the biological parents are, and it makes most sense to me for that to be on the birth certificate. If I were to go through surrogacy or gay adoption, I'd want my kids to have the option of knowing who their biological mother/parents are if they wanted to know or if the donor/surrogate mother wanted to be involved in the upbringing. I think a lot of adopted kids probably do, naturally, wonder about their biological parents, and I think it's unfair to with-hold that information from them if they want to know about them so much.While I do agree that kids "might" wonder about their biological parents, when they turn 18, if they want to explore the avenue of reaching out and finding them, that is their right, however, keep in mind that many birth parents choose a closed adoption because they do NOT want that sort of involvement. People give their children up for adoption for varying reasons. If the parent(s) were/are unfit and they are removed by the state and later adopted, the adoptive parents clearly have the right to withhold biological parent information from the child, whether it's to protect the child from harm or because the child was adopted at a very young age and has no recollection of who the birth mother was. If the biological mother is a young teen and feels that someone else can offer a better quality of life for the child, the adoptive parents still have the right to make the best decisions for their child.
It's not "homophobic" to allow the biological surrogate mother to be involved with the kid if she wants to be, and in adoption cases I think it's ethically right to document the biological parents for the child's sake.
In the case of a surrogate, they are in no way connected to the child as they are a surrogate for someone elses egg and sperm, therefore they have no rights. Typically in that sort of situation, there is a contract all parties sign prior to the birth of the child.
Please note that for the vast majority, the term "surrogate" refers to a host body. As explained above, the woman who carries the baby has no ties to the child she will be giving birth to.
The type of adoptive parents (meaning gay or straight) have no bearing on the biological or surrogate mother's rights to be involved in an adopted child's life. As far as that goes, if the adoption is closed, that means that the birth mother has no right to be in the child's life. This is explained fully to the mother when the adoption process is explained. Open adoptions are different in the sense that the agreement can mean anything from allowing the birth parent to be involved on an extremely limited basis, OR it can mean that the adopted child, when they reach a certain age agreed on by the parties, will be given the name and contact information of the birth mother. If the child so chooses, they can reach out and contact them in the future.
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