(December 18, 2015 at 6:59 pm)God of Mr. Hanky Wrote:(December 18, 2015 at 6:30 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: All child-rearing is a form of programming. Parents should indeed program values -- it's part of the job.
Child-rearing is not programming - it is teaching, and the difference is important! More important is that it is (or should always be) teaching with love, and if you love your own children then you will love them regardless of the values which they decide on for themselves. Child-rearing is helping children discover their own values, while helping them learn best how to live by them.
How many children do you have? How many have you raised from newborn? Values aren't instinctive, they're instilled. Arguing otherwise is ignoring nurture and exalting nature. No one is born thinking killing is wrong, I don't think.
And you can lecture me about how I should love my son when you demonstrate to me your fitness for doing so. You don't know him or me. Until then, you can shut yer piehole.
