My mother is my only biological parent, and for a while, my only parent. She's gotten very overloaded by raising me (disabled with spina bifida), taking care of my biological father after he had his stroke from agent orange, and being the shoulder everybody else leans on. After my mother remarried, my (now adopted "step") father got into the parental thing very quickly, and I started to have more disagreements with my mother based on my new perceptions of her beingf overloaded, and thus not really parenting me on an appropriate schedule, as it were. In the spina bifida world, many of us are always asking ourselves if a developmental deficiency is neurological or socialogical, and if it's the latter, could different parenting have changed things.
I am not a father nor do i ever intend to become one. Kids are just too much responsibility, and would never "complete" me. So, I respect my mother (and father) in this sense. If I lived their lives and they lived my life for a month, all parties would have a truly different perspective on eachother.
My godmother sat with me at breakfast one day and said that my mother was the most sincere person she had ever met. That's absolutely true, and I didn't realize it until my godmother said so. And I think that's a good trait. But at the same time, one needs to take care of oneself before worrying about others at times. And I think some of our tension revolves around this.
As I get older, though, the good stuff is becoming much more obvious. But, I'm not Rory and she's not Lorelai. I don't think I have the personality for that.
I am not a father nor do i ever intend to become one. Kids are just too much responsibility, and would never "complete" me. So, I respect my mother (and father) in this sense. If I lived their lives and they lived my life for a month, all parties would have a truly different perspective on eachother.
My godmother sat with me at breakfast one day and said that my mother was the most sincere person she had ever met. That's absolutely true, and I didn't realize it until my godmother said so. And I think that's a good trait. But at the same time, one needs to take care of oneself before worrying about others at times. And I think some of our tension revolves around this.
As I get older, though, the good stuff is becoming much more obvious. But, I'm not Rory and she's not Lorelai. I don't think I have the personality for that.
"For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring." - Carl Sagan
