My heart is breaking... I thought Christians are suppose to love "unconditionally"

[Crossless2.0]

My wife is nominally Christian (one of those Doesn't-know-shit-about-the-Bible-but-has-a-personal-relationship-with-God/Jesus types) and our differences aren't a cause of much friction -- so long as I put up with her pious nonsense (listening to sermons in the car, etc.) and keep my opinions to myself. When I talk about the Bible in a critical manner or question the conclusions she draws from certain of her experiences, she perceives it as an attack. I love her enough to just lay off her on the subject as far as my patience will take me, though it is insulting as hell to me that when she talks about Christianity she's "expressing herself" and shouldn't be judged, while anything I say is "negative" and "belittling", even if it's just to point out that the scholarly consensus on Topic X is not what she's being told by preachers. To be fair, she doesn't try to proselytize me, but I suspect she would if she didn't realize that I know far more about the subject than she does.

Yeah, these relationships can work, but usually at the expense of the non-believer muzzling him- or herself to keep the peace. Christians think they have a lock on truth and many of them flee frank, informed conversation like roaches flee light. Many of them are also fond of reaching into their grab bag of Biblical talking points to liken relationships with non-believers to being unequally yoked. It's true, but usually not in the sense they mean.

I wish you luck, kmthang. Unless she's pretty amazing in other respects, she may not be worth it in the end.