My heart is breaking... I thought Christians are suppose to love "unconditionally"

[kmthang]

1. Are you sure that her distancing herself from you is due to your change in belief?

2. You do realize that unconditional love doesn't mean that she must love you as a romantic partner forever and ever, right?  People's opinions and feelings for one another can change for a variety of reasons.  I loved my ex-girlfriend with all my heart.  She broke up with me (partially because I was a dumb ass 19 year old), and we didn't talk for many years.  We're now best friends because I missed her as a friend and reached out to her, and that while a fair amount of the issues that lead to the dissolving of our romantic relationship remain, they don't affect our friendship.  So, I still love her with all my heart, just in a different way.  She's my best bud, almost like a sister to me.

3. Have you, you know, actually communicated your feelings and thoughts about what's going on to her?  Successful relationships - friends, family, lovers, whatever - cannot survive without open and honest communication.  If you think your relationship with her is worth keeping/salvaging/fighting for, you need to talk to her and lay it all out there.  You really have nothing to lose.  Just be sure that you don't cave in regarding your beliefs.  Successful relationships also need respect, and if she can't respect what you believe (or don't believe), then the relationship won't be successful.

Good luck.

Yeah, I'm sure her change in behaviour started out after I opened about this to her. She doesn't even wanna sit next to me when we have worship (where family friends, parents etc can see us)... Last visit, her whole family knows about it and they sat down with me to talk about it. I explained them that my studies are giving me clues that our belief could be not what we think it is... I was told to stop going to my classes :o so things got a little too open that time.

I did talked to her about it. She's saying things like it's not going to work out and she only prays for same belief bf and husband : But I know that she's saying that because she wants me back to believe as her not break up with me. We both don't want to end ourselves but this difference, is like a ticking time bomb. If I don't find something that'll spark her mind to understand my point of view, I'll probably see an end soon :/ but I don't know how else to explain that my view is not satanic or it's just a positive logical thinking :/