RE: My heart is breaking... I thought Christians are suppose to love "uncondition...
December 30, 2015 at 12:42 am
most religious people (not all, but in my experience, the vast majority) practice their religion in a way
that tends to be very misguided, convoluted or disingenuous...when you finally get down to brass tacks.
It is a painful wake up call, to say the least, to experience it for the first time,
and your brain wants to reject the reality,
because it's the opposite of everything you've be taught to believe about religion.
Faith in God isn't really the problem.
Religion (dogma) is the problem.
I don't mind someone simply believing in God...
...but unless they can PROVE that THEIR particular set of beliefs ABOUT God is "the right one",
then they shouldn't pass it off as "Truth" to anyone else.
This is why I have no problem with Deism, per se,
...but I have a huge problem with other Religions.
In my experience, there are very few xtians who have it right about Christ, in the first place,
and therefore even fewer who could really tolerate having a non-xtian,
much less an Atheist, for a partner.
there ARE couples who fundamentally disagree on important issues,
but love each other enough, and are open-minded and non-judgmental enough to make it work:
Consider James Carville and his wife of 22 years, Mary Matalin.
He is a staunch Democrat, and is a former adviser to Bill Clinton,
and she is a staunch and active Republican.
How their marriage worked, after all these years, I have no idea,
but it certainly bears thinking about.
However, as incredible as that is,
it is POLITICS...based in the Earthly realm.
It is not RELIGION...professing to be God's Law, and therefore unavoidable and unassailable.
My point is that it is POSSIBLE for fundamentally, diametrically-opposed couples to make it work,
but the Carvilles are the most extreme example that comes to mind...
...and even THAT isn't an example that included Religion....only mere Politics.
I fear you will hurt for some time, yet...maybe years.
Being Atheist is, ironically, rather a cross to bear, at times.
I sympathize, and hope everything works out for you.
that tends to be very misguided, convoluted or disingenuous...when you finally get down to brass tacks.
It is a painful wake up call, to say the least, to experience it for the first time,
and your brain wants to reject the reality,
because it's the opposite of everything you've be taught to believe about religion.
Faith in God isn't really the problem.
Religion (dogma) is the problem.
I don't mind someone simply believing in God...
...but unless they can PROVE that THEIR particular set of beliefs ABOUT God is "the right one",
then they shouldn't pass it off as "Truth" to anyone else.
This is why I have no problem with Deism, per se,
...but I have a huge problem with other Religions.
In my experience, there are very few xtians who have it right about Christ, in the first place,
and therefore even fewer who could really tolerate having a non-xtian,
much less an Atheist, for a partner.
there ARE couples who fundamentally disagree on important issues,
but love each other enough, and are open-minded and non-judgmental enough to make it work:
Consider James Carville and his wife of 22 years, Mary Matalin.
He is a staunch Democrat, and is a former adviser to Bill Clinton,
and she is a staunch and active Republican.
How their marriage worked, after all these years, I have no idea,
but it certainly bears thinking about.
However, as incredible as that is,
it is POLITICS...based in the Earthly realm.
It is not RELIGION...professing to be God's Law, and therefore unavoidable and unassailable.
My point is that it is POSSIBLE for fundamentally, diametrically-opposed couples to make it work,
but the Carvilles are the most extreme example that comes to mind...
...and even THAT isn't an example that included Religion....only mere Politics.
I fear you will hurt for some time, yet...maybe years.
Being Atheist is, ironically, rather a cross to bear, at times.
I sympathize, and hope everything works out for you.
