RE: My heart is breaking... I thought Christians are suppose to love "uncondition...
December 30, 2015 at 3:52 am
(December 30, 2015 at 2:27 am)kmthang Wrote:(December 29, 2015 at 10:00 pm)mh.brewer Wrote: I'm married to a catholic. Kind of a cafeteria one, picks and chooses what parts she chooses to believe. We have found a place of compromise that works for both of us. There are far more important aspects to a relationship than gods or religions.
4 years does not a lifetime make. I know it hurts, but this is not a good sign. Using sex/emotions as a manipulation tool is no way to settle differences.
As far as unconditional love goes I'm not sure I believe in it or at least it's very rare. Parent/child is the closest one I most often recognize. The love between my wife and I is conditional.
Yeah, people like you are the reason which prevents me from ending our story right away. The reason I have hope that things can work out or even better, she will come to think logically. If somehow we can be like you guys are, it'll be enough for me :/ Just this whole day I was thinking about this and I'm thinking that I should try to keep christianity as my cultural thing (ie, go to churches etc, participate, even though I admit to them openly than I'm not 100% a believer). I'm considering this because I think christian prefer the term 'weak believers' then 'atheists'. Thanks a lot for your responses everyone. I've always thought I'm a normal average person who'll find love and get marry and have kids and not have to deal with things similar to one of those on the news or in movies. This is really a shock to me.
I'll probably go see her after new years and see if she's still being bogged by this differences we came to have.
Here's a thought to keep in mind: Even if you do get together because neither of you have anything better to do don't expect it to last because from what you've said she really isn't into it. You might even get married but she will eventually kick you to the curb. Then what?
When you are in a relationship the other person will always tell you the truth, either through words or actions. You just have to take off the blinders and see what you're being told. When someone tells you that they don't want to be with you through words or actions believe them; they are not lying. Only you can deceive yourself.
