RE: My heart is breaking... I thought Christians are suppose to love "unconditionally"
December 30, 2015 at 5:01 pm
Unconditional love is a peculiar concept. Will you love me when I'm old and wrinkled and in a wheelchair? Will you love me if I murder your mother? Truly unconditional love means you will love someone no matter what they do or become, or even who they really are. If it turns out your spouse is a KGB sleeper agent, unconditional love would require you to keep on loving him or her. Why would you love someone if not for who they are?
Children get unconditional love, because that's how it works, but even that is only up to a point. If there is literally NOTHING your child could do to lose your affection, that strikes me as a bit monstrous; and I hope you haven't the sort of child who'll have you pushing strangers down the basement stairs to assuage their nigh uncontrollable lust for torture-murder and necrophilia.
If you change too much in ways that make you a person I can't love, I'll stop loving you. That's honest. Unconditional love is, at best, an exaggeration. It's okay to stop loving someone. It happens all the time. It's natural. That's life. You hope it doesn't happen, but sometimes things don't work out. We don't have a duty to force ourselves to keep loving someone we can't love anymore.
I acknowledge that the above rant probably indicates that I have put too much morbid thought into this.
Children get unconditional love, because that's how it works, but even that is only up to a point. If there is literally NOTHING your child could do to lose your affection, that strikes me as a bit monstrous; and I hope you haven't the sort of child who'll have you pushing strangers down the basement stairs to assuage their nigh uncontrollable lust for torture-murder and necrophilia.
If you change too much in ways that make you a person I can't love, I'll stop loving you. That's honest. Unconditional love is, at best, an exaggeration. It's okay to stop loving someone. It happens all the time. It's natural. That's life. You hope it doesn't happen, but sometimes things don't work out. We don't have a duty to force ourselves to keep loving someone we can't love anymore.
I acknowledge that the above rant probably indicates that I have put too much morbid thought into this.
I'm not anti-Christian. I'm anti-stupid.
