My heart is breaking... I thought Christians are suppose to love "unconditionally"

[*Deidre*]

I've been a strong christian for most of my life but until two months ago. I have my reasons for becoming an atheist but I swear that I don't hate 'God' or any gods. It's just that I feel I've matured in seeing how the world works. Anyways. I've been dating with my gf for almost 4 years now. She's still a believer. Even though I turned to an atheist I still keep a lot of wisdoms and lessons I learned from the Bible.  I consider myself a kind, humble, nice, funny, non-judgmental. The very last time I met with my gf, she didn't kiss me anymore. She didn't even want to touch me anymore... or even had a hard time letting me hold her hand. This really broke my heart even though I didn't tell her.

I've always thought Christians are suppose to be able to learn "unconditionally" no matter what their partner suddenly believes in as long as he doesn't become violent or abusive or try to force something they don't want to do. In our case, all I want from her is to respect my lack of belief. I don't force her to become an atheist either (mostly because I don't think she'll understand the phrases I'd use to even explain her what caused my decision. She's not as smart as me (I'm not that smart either) but I love her for who she is. I'd love her no matter how she looks fat/skinny, sick... Even if she becomes a different religion I'll still love her but... this change that she showed me really broke my heart. As I write this, I can feel our almost-4 years relationship is coming to an end. She's my first relationship (not first crush/love).

It's hard for me to ask her any much more questions as I fear it'll speed up this ending process. If you're a female and your bf becomes an atheist (friendly), what do you want from him to keep your relationship besides forcing him to be a believer again?

What are my options? Give me some ideas...

I just can't imagine living a life without seeing her beautiful face smiling for me but for someone else :'(



Thanks

Is this real?

Are you seriously saying Christians can't break up with people because You think they are supposed to love unconditionally?

If so, know your answer is no. No Christian's are not supposed to Love unconditionally. God does not love unconditionally.

Ever read John 3:16? "For God so loved the world that He gave his only Son that whosoever believes in Him..."

Did you see that? "That Whosoever believes..." That my broken hearted emo friend is a condition to God's love. "Do this and get that." That being ever lasting life.

So that means your girl can come and go/love as she likes, till she gets married, then she will be trapped forever/till death 'smiling' at her husband.

Plus look on the bright side, your an atheist now, and you can find 'happiness' in the 3 P's. Pot, Porn and Pizza! isn't that the reason no one want's to acknowledge God anymore? Plus you can buy a bunch of black cloths get everything pierced twice and drive your parents nuts! that seems to be alot of fun for people who don't get what/who they want now a days!

lol 

Yea, being a believer in general, not just a Christian, doesn't mean that's synonymous with becoming a doormat. 

From my perspective, I think God (from a Christian view) does love the person, unconditionally, but it's not defined in the type of love we are always prone to talking about. There are different types of love, and levels, I'd say. There are Christians however who think every 'sin' a person commits puts them further away from God's love. I guess it's a matter of perspective, but that's a terrible way to go through faith...and life.